Ok, just to start I'll say that I kind of suck at talking on the phone (but I'm working on it). I can hold a conversation ok, but I don't know how to flirt over the phone. In person I'm ok, I can use both my actions and my words to convey what I mean. But I'm always afraid that what I say on the phone will be taken in a way other than what I intended (I usually flirt subtlely, but I have trouble getting that across over the phone, they either get offended or they don't realize I'm even flirting). So any tips would be appreciated, and any tips for flirting over text message would be nice too. Thanks.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Need tips for flirting over phone or text
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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flirting over text is easy for me.
one way is just to say sexual things mixed in with normal things, like 2 threads per message. ie:
"youre such a naughty one
and yeah bla bla"
or just accuse her of having sexual thoughts or whatnot. just tease her
"haha guilty as charged but we both know youve got a dirty mind too."
now you start a thread/joke between you two about each other having a dirty mind. she replied to that part by saying "lol.. ok maybee i do too hahaha"
same as in person, but you can easily diffuse sexual tension (too much sexual tension over texts can be kinda weird/creepy). Just say something sexual and something more normal conversation-wise. This basically acts the same way as "confident body language" does in person when you say something sexual yet keep a strong frame like it's no big deal.
That's the key, to make the sexual comments not seem like a big deal or like you're wanting her to respond to it. Sexual comments via text are just throwaway comments, a sidetrack in the short conversation you're having with the girl.
not too different with real life, just remember you can't follow up with anything physical so make sure you dont be outcome dependant or anything, just diffuse strong sexual tension so it doesn't feel like you're cybering with the girl or simply getting a 'flirt fix' from her.
one way is just to say sexual things mixed in with normal things, like 2 threads per message. ie:
"youre such a naughty one
and yeah bla bla"or just accuse her of having sexual thoughts or whatnot. just tease her
"haha guilty as charged but we both know youve got a dirty mind too."
now you start a thread/joke between you two about each other having a dirty mind. she replied to that part by saying "lol.. ok maybee i do too hahaha"
same as in person, but you can easily diffuse sexual tension (too much sexual tension over texts can be kinda weird/creepy). Just say something sexual and something more normal conversation-wise. This basically acts the same way as "confident body language" does in person when you say something sexual yet keep a strong frame like it's no big deal.
That's the key, to make the sexual comments not seem like a big deal or like you're wanting her to respond to it. Sexual comments via text are just throwaway comments, a sidetrack in the short conversation you're having with the girl.
not too different with real life, just remember you can't follow up with anything physical so make sure you dont be outcome dependant or anything, just diffuse strong sexual tension so it doesn't feel like you're cybering with the girl or simply getting a 'flirt fix' from her.
http://www.rsdnation.com/ryan%C2%AE/blog/10-easy-steps-text-message-success Texting part 1
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/84921 texting part2
http://alexattitude.com/?m=200806 Phone game
I still say you need to dig through the forum (search button) and try to learn some of this on your own, but the above thread is great. If I find more, I'll edit this post.
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/84921 texting part2
http://alexattitude.com/?m=200806 Phone game
I still say you need to dig through the forum (search button) and try to learn some of this on your own, but the above thread is great. If I find more, I'll edit this post.
:trouble: okay FOR THIS TIME ONLY...................I will not be spewing my usualy instructional posts...but today,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,ARE U READY,,,,,,,,,,,,drum roll.............
JUST THE CUT N PASTE (FROM THE BOOK DaVagina Code).................PRINT EM OUT AND USE THEM FOR YOUR PHONE GAME.
'Hey, it must be pretty bad when you've got to resort to paying $25 a month to meet guys... I read your profile... now tell me what’s REALLY wrong with you?
One more thing: I'm interested in meeting in person, not wasting time with IM's and emails back and forth. If you're on here looking for online pen pals, :trouble: I'm not the guy for you. If, however, you're adventurous enough to take a chance and meet a guy like me in the real world, then you & I just might get along just fine
Hi ALL TALK GIRL, are you one of those women that just teases men & hides behind their computer and rarely meet anyone?. Are you adventurous or are u in fact a chicken……I say it’s the all talk chic………am I correct?
YOU: LISA?
HER: YES?
YOU: this is the man of your dreams calling?
HER: oh really !
YOU: nice tattoo, I never thought you would be the type to get a tramp stamp.
HER: hey that’s not nice, it’s just a rebel thing, I was young
YOU: don’t worry I know you are a Mary Poppins and your adventurous days are long gone, listen the reason I am calling is for my token date. I was thinking meeting for a drink around 8, tomorrow at xyz bar…you know where that is right?
YOU: OK I will call you tomorrow before the crack of noon to confirm the details………wear something sexy too!
TEXT GAME-Letting your fingers do the talking.............examples
-instead of :HI, how are you say something like : HOW’S MY LIL ADORABLE BRAT DOING TODAY
-answer your phone, it’s me (if she refuses say “ok I am filing for divorce).
there is also answering machine & VOICEMAIL 101, leaving your own outgoing message on your machine how to, call screening 101, instant messaging, from DIGITS 2 DATES, WHAT TO DO WHEN U KEEP getting the machine
lets do a few voicemails as u may encounter voicemail.........
Hey Cindy, its Jim, we met the other night at Home Depot. The reason I am calling is I am going out Wednesday night to grab a drink, meet me there at eight…and wear something cute. My number is 555-1212. Talk to you soon.
-Hey Michele........this is Jim, from Match.com, my number is 555-1212, I am not a bill collector, I am not trying to sell you aluminum siding, windows, vacation in Hawaii, I am sure your carpets are clean and you gave at the office. I was thinking of meeting for a drink this week, Thursday, or Friday, at Chuck-E Cheese which day works best for you.
-Hello, it’s me……..I am looking for my future ex-wife, are you screening your calls already? Well the reason I am calling is for our token first date, you know so we can see if there is any chemistry……..then we can head to Vegas, but I gotta see if you are beautiful on the inside as well first. I will call you at 7:30 later tonight, is first class ok.
Just a few, hopes this helps
and don't forget the POWER OF PERSUATION SECRETS TO GETTING WHAT YOU WANT FROM PEOPLE,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
HER: You are taking me out to dinner/movie right and picking me up. (proposal)
YOU: Sheesh lady I am not an ATM, I can’t afford all that, besides I don’t get paid til next week. (flinch)
HER: What about dinner then (counter-offer)
YOU: Well just as long as it’s not one of those busy, expensive restaurants. (negotiation)
HER: hmmm let me think about it get back to you on that, maybe another day then (withdrawal/scare tactic)
YOU: I can pick you up and do dinner or a movie. (close to the original proposal).
M
JUST THE CUT N PASTE (FROM THE BOOK DaVagina Code).................PRINT EM OUT AND USE THEM FOR YOUR PHONE GAME.
'Hey, it must be pretty bad when you've got to resort to paying $25 a month to meet guys... I read your profile... now tell me what’s REALLY wrong with you?
One more thing: I'm interested in meeting in person, not wasting time with IM's and emails back and forth. If you're on here looking for online pen pals, :trouble: I'm not the guy for you. If, however, you're adventurous enough to take a chance and meet a guy like me in the real world, then you & I just might get along just fine
Hi ALL TALK GIRL, are you one of those women that just teases men & hides behind their computer and rarely meet anyone?. Are you adventurous or are u in fact a chicken……I say it’s the all talk chic………am I correct?
YOU: LISA?
HER: YES?
YOU: this is the man of your dreams calling?
HER: oh really !
YOU: nice tattoo, I never thought you would be the type to get a tramp stamp.
HER: hey that’s not nice, it’s just a rebel thing, I was young
YOU: don’t worry I know you are a Mary Poppins and your adventurous days are long gone, listen the reason I am calling is for my token date. I was thinking meeting for a drink around 8, tomorrow at xyz bar…you know where that is right?
YOU: OK I will call you tomorrow before the crack of noon to confirm the details………wear something sexy too!
TEXT GAME-Letting your fingers do the talking.............examples
-instead of :HI, how are you say something like : HOW’S MY LIL ADORABLE BRAT DOING TODAY
-answer your phone, it’s me (if she refuses say “ok I am filing for divorce).
there is also answering machine & VOICEMAIL 101, leaving your own outgoing message on your machine how to, call screening 101, instant messaging, from DIGITS 2 DATES, WHAT TO DO WHEN U KEEP getting the machine
lets do a few voicemails as u may encounter voicemail.........
Hey Cindy, its Jim, we met the other night at Home Depot. The reason I am calling is I am going out Wednesday night to grab a drink, meet me there at eight…and wear something cute. My number is 555-1212. Talk to you soon.
-Hey Michele........this is Jim, from Match.com, my number is 555-1212, I am not a bill collector, I am not trying to sell you aluminum siding, windows, vacation in Hawaii, I am sure your carpets are clean and you gave at the office. I was thinking of meeting for a drink this week, Thursday, or Friday, at Chuck-E Cheese which day works best for you.
-Hello, it’s me……..I am looking for my future ex-wife, are you screening your calls already? Well the reason I am calling is for our token first date, you know so we can see if there is any chemistry……..then we can head to Vegas, but I gotta see if you are beautiful on the inside as well first. I will call you at 7:30 later tonight, is first class ok.
Just a few, hopes this helps
and don't forget the POWER OF PERSUATION SECRETS TO GETTING WHAT YOU WANT FROM PEOPLE,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
HER: You are taking me out to dinner/movie right and picking me up. (proposal)
YOU: Sheesh lady I am not an ATM, I can’t afford all that, besides I don’t get paid til next week. (flinch)
HER: What about dinner then (counter-offer)
YOU: Well just as long as it’s not one of those busy, expensive restaurants. (negotiation)
HER: hmmm let me think about it get back to you on that, maybe another day then (withdrawal/scare tactic)
YOU: I can pick you up and do dinner or a movie. (close to the original proposal).
M