Need someone's take....

[supyos]

So I had a first date with this chick last night...seemed to go pretty well had dinner and hit up a bar afterwards. Lots of good discussion. We then came back to my place for a bit and ALL interest seemed to have been lost instantly. I tried to be touchy/feely but got NO reaction. After about an hour she was like "I am getting pretty tired...I should go home" I offered that she could stay over...but she was like no but thanks for the offer. We got her a Cab and she was off.

Today I knew she was busy...but I just floated her a TXT to shoot the ****, and mention we could hang out this upcoming week sometime, and for her to let me know. She responds "Will let you know..thanks for last night you were a gentlemen!!" Now what da hell does that mean?? To me it sounds like she is saying you were a ***** why didn't you make a move!!

The problem was when I met this chick I was buzzing and HAD GOOD game...for some reason this first date I couldn't get my ass in gear...and probably didn't mack on her hard enough. So all in all should I next this chick?? I mean isn't the comment gentlemen the same as nice guy A.k.a *****!

A little help...

 

[MatureDJ]

Quick action is overrated

A lot of guys will say that you should make strong early moves to establish your "masculinity". I disagree. I think that the best course of action is to be a bit reserved, giving the impression that you are a very sexual man, but that you have not fully decided to get romantic with this woman. She should be able to sense this, and her female instinct will be to try to get you to become sexual with her.

Pretty much anything that doesn't seem to present yourself as a nerd or gay is good.

 

[DJDamage]

So I had a first date with this chick last night...seemed to go pretty well had dinner and hit up a bar afterwards. Lots of good discussion. We then came back to my place for a bit and ALL interest seemed to have been lost instantly.

I think you have failed throughout the date to esscalate her attraction in you. It sounds as if you were able to bring it to a certain level but stayed in that zone way to long. You needed to amp the sexuality a bit more (kino her, fvck with her mind.), you needed to take more chances but you inclined not too and as result you weren't really sure of her interest in you. You should also leave on a high note (end the date before she does) so she will get a good impression on you for the following date. You just dragged this date out until the bitter end.

By the way only invite the girl up to your place if you are certain that you are going to hit that. Other wise what were you planning to do? watch television and play scrabble like friends do?? until you don't establish that she is romatically into you, don't take it easy with her.

I think you should at least call her one more time (don't text) and don't say stuff like "hanging out" 'cause that is weak. If she gives you excuses then toss out her number and NEXT her.

 

[penkitten]

i think you are over reacting right now.
you just said that you knew she was busy.
let her finish whatever she was busy with to respond more before you react to it.

 

[DjVelvet]

So I had a first date with this chick last night...seemed to go pretty well had dinner and hit up a bar afterwards. Lots of good discussion. We then came back to my place for a bit and ALL interest seemed to have been lost instantly. I tried to be touchy/feely but got NO reaction. After about an hour she was like "I am getting pretty tired...I should go home" I offered that she could stay over...but she was like no but thanks for the offer. We got her a Cab and she was off.

Today I knew she was busy...but I just floated her a TXT to shoot the ****, and mention we could hang out this upcoming week sometime, and for her to let me know. She responds "Will let you know..thanks for last night you were a gentlemen!!" Now what da hell does that mean?? To me it sounds like she is saying you were a ***** why didn't you make a move!!

The problem was when I met this chick I was buzzing and HAD GOOD game...for some reason this first date I couldn't get my ass in gear...and probably didn't mack on her hard enough. So all in all should I next this chick?? I mean isn't the comment gentlemen the same as nice guy A.k.a *****!

A little help...

Personally thinks that it is a "Virtual LMR" in her mind. Some ASD coming up. when she reaches your doorstep.

I reckon "Comfort" zone duration is not long enough. Attraction seems alright.



"After about an hour she was like "I am getting pretty tired...I should go home" I offered that she could stay over...but she was like no but thanks for the offer."

Grave mistake. If you notice her interest seems to disappear instantly.. why push by saying she can stay over when she mentioned about going home?

Instead, you should say these when she mentioned she wanna go home ,"Cool, I'm pretty tired too. Let me get you a taxi."


Imo. you sub-consciencely exude desperation and she senses it.

Its a slightly damaged set.

 

[Nasman]

Give this girl one more chance. Don't next her yet. I think it is still a chance u could fvck this girl, but it could take a little time. Maybe she thinks you BF material, or maybe she had a bad sexual experience and tensed up when she was at your place.

The bottom line is she said u were a gentlemen I think this is more of a good sign than a bad sign. If she was going to flake she would have never called back. Stay with it I think you will end up fvcking her.

Keep me posted

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

This whole assessment is based on very limited information. You're leaving out a LOT of in-between details in the course of your date, as well as how you met her, how you asked her out, how old she is, if you work with her, is she a single mommie, etc.? This might seem like spliting hairs to you at this point, but you can't expect more than a cursory brush of advice when you tell the story from your own frustrated point of view.

I could tell you to NEXT her, I could say it's LMR (I don't believe in ASD), it could be that you jumped too quickly from attraction to rapport, it could be you never increased her buying temperature, or you simply misread her real IL - I don't know, we don't have enough details.

 

[kyphan]

As for being called a gentlemen...you think that is a smart chick's way of saying a nice guy? haha I have been called a nice guy and am trying to ditch that persona....but never been called a gentlemen from anyone under 50.

I would be thrilled if a woman referred to me as a gentleman. Then again, my definition of a gentleman probably differs from yours.