Need some tips

[tbh]

Hi :rock: im new here , and i need some tips on how to improve my life(Before anything) i already read the stickies but it doesnt solve my question, so this is my life basically:
im a really skiny guy , im tall , also about my social life , its like i have no real friends , because i make everyone laugh so basically they only use me to ¨get a laugh¨ and for me its really hard to mantain a conversation but its weird because i can speak very easily in public , but when it comes to speak with one person i know some things on how to start a conversation , but to mantain one, there´s the problem :nervous: i have tried making questions about what they´re speaking but they tell me: *why do you make a lot of questions* so what can i do
thanks :wave:

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Firstly, working out and active lifestyle and eating more and correct. It doesn't come easy and you're not entitled to anything.

I think holding conversations might be hard for you because you rely on their responses for you to keep going. You "put the ball in their court". You dont need to do that. I think the reason you do that is because you're worried about what they think of you. If you don't try to ascribe to someone's standards and uphold some image to them, then you become a lot more free and can express yourself freely.

 

[tbh]

Thanks for answering , yeah im going to start working out next week , and i´ll try to eat more so i can gain weight.
But if i don´t make questions i think they're going to think that im not paying attention . "you're worried about what they think of you" ohh now i see , so what can i do instead of making questions about what they're talking ?
Again thanks for taking your time to answer

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Think of eating as making the work out worth it. If you don't eat enough, your workout was wasted.

Paying attention has more to do with attentive listening and responding. Im not saying you shouldnt do that.