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Need some tips for my blind date in 3 hours

Jaxon

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This is actually going to be a double blind date, but the blind part only applies to me and my date. My buddy's hooking me up with his step-sister who I've never met but have seen pictures of and she is smoking hot. (At least an 8.5 by anyone with even the strictest of standards).

He offered to set it up for me, but I just told him to give me her number and that I would call and set it up myself. I'm wondering if that was a mistake because the conversation didn't go super great. Here's how it went:

Me: Hey this is Jaxon, I'm calling for Torey.
Torey: This is she.
Me: *Funny slightly ****y tone* Yeah I was told that I had to call this number because apparently there's a girl that's dying to go out with me. Would that be you?
Torey: *Awkward laughter* Ummmmmm....
Me: .... .... okay so anyway I guess everyone decided on a double date and that's cool with you?
Torey: Yeah that sounds good.
Me: Okay so I'll pick you up at your place on Friday at 8, I just need instructions on how to get there.
Torey: Okay, umm, well here actually let me call you back.
Me: Uh....okay. I take it you have my number on call id?
Torey: Yep, got it right here.
Me: All right, talk to you later then.

And that was it. As soon as she told me she wanted to call me back I knew that for whatever reason she was just trying to get off the phone. I figured I wouldn't hear back from her, and sure enough I didn't. A couple days later though my buddy told me that he talked to her and that we were good to go for Friday (tonight).

So now we're set to do a double date dinner and a movie thing with me and her and he and his wife. But I'm sitting here like wtf, for one why didn't she call back, and two, why was she so awkward on the phone. Maybe she was taking me too seriously or something, I dunno.

So now I'm just trying to relax about it and have a good time and not go into this with an "eff you" mentality for being weird on the phone and not calling me back. Overall I'm just not exactly sure how to handle it. For all I know my bro called her up and convinced her to go out with me after our talk. Any way you look at it I'm not going in it with high hopes and have already told my buddy to prepared to get sh*tty should things start going south quick.

Any suggestions?
 

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Just keep it cool. Get to know her and see how things go. Hopefully she is not ugly...

EDIT: Didn't wanna use another post cause of the 10 post rule... But, just bring enough cash with you incase.
 

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Oh and one other thing, what do I do about paying? I'm heading there after work so will be joining them late. Since she didn't even call me back I don't know if I should even look at this as an actual date or what.

And if that's the case, or if they're already an appetizer and a drink or two in when I show up, should I pay? I don't want to be a d*ck, but at the same time I don't want to fumble all over myself and look like I'm desperate to pay for her either. Any ideas on protocol there?
 

Jaxon

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Yep just pulled out $40 cash plus I have the card. I figure if I spend more than $40 on a blind date then I've spent too much.

Anyone else have some input??
 
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