Need some "refresher" advice on how to land a friend...

[damnbugs]

Ok the situation is that I have been friends with this girl for years. We have gotten closer over time and it is looking more and more like there is something brewing.

She is a HB9 and we party together all the time. I usually let her come to me. I spend most of my time with the guys or talking to other girls.

She has told me that she thinks I'm great and that she loves me. But both times were when we were very drunk. I responded both times by laughing at her and telling her it was the booze talking. I never brought either time up- just pretended like they didn't happen.

Things seem to be progressing a bit at a time- so I would like suggestions on how to fuel her attraction for me and what things to avoid?

Thanks.

 

[catch]

if you havent already then making a move might help, girls dont go for shy guys who beat around the bush.. i found that out myself... sexual flirting is the way forward..

every hb7-9 has nice guy friend, this guy is there emotional drainage system whom they can depend up on for avalabilty, money, gifts, hearing what they want to here, all this and all because they know this nice guy/bst freind will give them what they want..

i sincerely hope this isnt you!!!

if you like her then dont treat her like the the little princess that all her other nice guy friends do and treat her like you would any other girl you want... or you could move up a level and be her soul mate

 

[damnbugs]

I have already avoided the pitfalls you speak of- I am not the emotional drainpipe.

I don't treat her like a princess- I openly hit on girls right in front of her. I joke with her and basically treat her like one of the guys- I make fun of her when I get the chance.

I have somewhat of a plan- I just need to increase the attraction- hopefully enough so that she will make the first move. I know you guys will say waiting for her is a cop out so that I don't have to risk anything. But I think it is the best way to approach this when dealing with a friend.

I haven't made a move yet- I have some what teased her a few times- but didn't feel the circumstances were right.

Thanks for the reply.

 

[catch]

no thats not the best way,
you make the move its the mans job.


i mean how do you know shes not waiting for you to do this...fcuk!

what if shes been waiting all this time man, think about all the time youve wasted...instead of dating and mating all youve done is subtitute your desire for friendship, a failsafe strategy used by all guys too shy to act, to get close to there desire and hide there manhood.

i know you you like this girl, you know it, every one on this board knows it, so why are you hiding it from her...??!!

if you want something then you go get it

 

[catch]

tell me your going to go get her damnbugs!

 

[ScrewIt]

Originally posted by damnbugs
I have already avoided the pitfalls you speak of- I am not the emotional drainpipe.

I don't treat her like a princess- I openly hit on girls right in front of her. I joke with her and basically treat her like one of the guys- I make fun of her when I get the chance.

I have somewhat of a plan- I just need to increase the attraction- hopefully enough so that she will make the first move. I know you guys will say waiting for her is a cop out so that I don't have to risk anything. But I think it is the best way to approach this when dealing with a friend.

I haven't made a move yet- I have some what teased her a few times- but didn't feel the circumstances were right.

Thanks for the reply.

from the way you treat her, it sounds like she's already falling for you. joking on them and teasing and treating like one of the guys just stirs attraction in them, cause they wonder why you dont treat her like a girl and wants you for that reason.

 

[GaryNas]

Aren't there movies about this? Where two people like each other, but hide it until the very end of the show?

It's a little crude, but here's what I would say to her (in a sarcastic tone):

"So!! When the FVCK are we going out?"

Be serious for 2 seconds after and then smile/laugh.

 

[DeathDealer]

Dude, you gotta understand that girls won't tell you this:

Girls have a window of time that allows a guy to make a move. If you do not respond within that certain time, they cut you off brutally.

Consider yourself a FRIEND. Permanently. And if anything happens, it'll be quick and most likely you'll end up getting the shaft.

 

[damnbugs]

Yeah I am going to go get her!

I knew you guys would freak about me wanting her to make the first move- but there is a method to my madness. Not sure I can or want to explain it...

Her making the first move would be nice- but I am definatley not depending on it.

I am going to aquire the target the next time I see her.

I have already done all the prep work I need to. Should be a walk in the park. I will update.

Anymore advice on increasing the attraction?

 

[catch]

yeahhhh, go on damnbugs!!!!

theres loads of ways to boost her attraction for you..

1)jealousy, my favorite...

2)body language..., maintane sexy confident eye contact, pointing feet towards her, mild grooming( spareingly )... relaxed layed back posture.. and KINO....etc..

3)mixed signals, push-pull...

4)c&f, read about the five flavours of c&f by senor fingers w.m.s...

5)hard to get....making yourself the prize and becomimg the challenge...

6)social proof, talking to every one and showing her
your a don jaun

7)making a move, she will be attrcted to you for simply showing her that your comfortable with yourself, and confident enough to be the man an make the moves..


you can read about all this in more detail in the bible....and damn bugs rember this...
say this quote in your head three times and remember it for the rest of your life...





if you fall down, then you pick yourself up and walk on, knowing that you found success from failier...