Need some push here!

[DonJuanit0]

So 1.5 month ago I broke up with my gf! She is a HB 9.5 so yeah, it is really difficult for me but she disrespected me! I did the right thing and walked away! She tried to be rough against me after that, messages like, you are the most unkind person I know and staff, but I simply never replied! Now, yesterday she sent me a message on FB asking how I was I replied, "fine"! She then asked me if learned about some results I've been waiting, I replied "not yet"! She sent nothing more! Today, she goes to a fast food store next to where I hang out with my friends and sits there with a female friend of mine! When we are about to go my friend comes over and greets me asking me if I had seen with who she was with! I said "yes, what am I suppossed to do?"! I take these things as a sign of her wanting to come back! NC has worked! The thing is that I was feeling that I had forgot about her, but now I'm starting to think about her AGAIN! Which is bad! She has a huge EGO so I don't know if she's gonna do anything else rather than showing up to places where I am! This simply doesn't help me forget about her! Nowdays I spin a plate with another woman but I'm not THAT into her! There are times that I think of my ex and after these things happening I find it even more difficult for me to forget! I just wanted to share and maybe get some feedback on how to procceed!

My English may not be perfect here cause I'm in a hurry!

Thanks anyway!

 

[SgtSplacker]

Sounds to me like you just need to sit down with yourself and decide if you still wan't this girl. She's a pain in the arse, so if you're not really into her it's time to move on.

Or you can just keep her around as an orbiter and bang her when you're horny.

 

[DonJuanit0]

and she just sent me txt messages!

Her:I wanted to say hello today but I understood you didn't want to... Am I wrong? Anyway I'm happy I saw you even from far away
Me:If you wanted to say hi you should just come and say it! The thing that you are happy doesn't mean me a thing!
Her:I didn't cause I understood you didn't want to! It might not mean a thing to you but it does mean a lot to me!
Me: Your "a lot" from mine "a lot" are different too much time now! You could see that from the way we ended! It still doesn't mean a thing to me!

(basically the reason we broke up was because we were in a LTR and she was acting like she didn't care at all! She would prefer to go out with her female friends rather than be with me! She invited me everytime but I simply didn't want to spend so much time with her friends! I wasn't over reacting but for example there was one time we hadn't see each other for 3 days cause we couldn't and the 4th day she tells me she prefers to go out with her friend she was with last night and just invites me to join them! There were many cases like this one!)

 

[DonJuanit0]

And now she wants us to meet! I'm tired of this and I simply can't get away from it... I wanna see her so much but I'm afraid she won't have changed... Meanwhile my other plate acts like I am her oneitis and thinks we are in LTR! I have facked everything!

 

[Pimp-sicle]

First off all stop putting an !!!!!!!! after everything you say, you sound overly dramatic.

Secondly, you WERE & ARE over-reacting. The reason you gave for breaking up with her is petty at best. You were being needy and whiney, while she was including you in her life, while still having a life outside of you.

The fact that she is still trying to talk to you means she obviously still likes you.

Why? I have no clue, because you've been nothing but an insecure little boy.

I think its pretty hilarious how your trying to act all tough and like you don't care, yet you CLEARLY care A LOT and want her back.

Tell me, what is this fake tough guy act doing for you, aside from making you think about her and posting every little detail of what she says or does to you?

If you want her back, make an effort and stop being so insecure.

I could understand if she was going out with her friends and getting drunk without you; but she has invited you every time and clearly wants you there.

What you should have done is gone with her a few times and declined the other times. Hang with your friends, meet new people and have fun; then you wouldn't be so insecure.








PIMP

 

[DonJuanit0]

You got me wrong! Yeah I am frustrated at the moment! I did go out with her friends many times! I did have my personal life! I was not whiney or over reacting, I wanted to see my gf and I simply couldn't without a friend of hers escorting! I am not insecure and trying to act tough, I tried to move on, found another plate to spin and went on with my life! My emotions are holding me back!

 

[DonJuanit0]

I am going to have to side with PIMP and brad. Juanito how old are you bro?? You should be happy you're gf was still keeping her friends and social life. Trust me the last thing you want is a clinger. I don't get why you broke up?? She made you hangout with her friends??? That's petty as ****... Plus she is 9.5 and youre acting like this??? WTH is wrong with you?? Then you tell her you don't care when you really do?? Honestly man, you need to get over that and stop being such a whiney kid. This has got to be a high school situation.. In that case just bang her and go let her hangout with her stupid friends. Trust me when she hangs out with them all day and what not, she will be wanting to come home to you and see you. The key is not to make any girl a priority, and if you do, dont automatically expect her to make you a priority. You need to do you and she does her, then you mutually come together when you want each others company. Eventually when you are in a LTR long enough you will be seeing each other on the daily. Then you will be wishing she wanted to go see her friends lol

We were together (not officialy in LTR) but together for 1.5 year! Guys, I really wasn't like that! At some point she just started to hang out with an old female friend of hers and simply stopped caring about us being alone, have sex, etc! I did give her space! I did have my own life! The thing is that she was acting like we weren't together anymore! I had to ask her to meet each other, and I would have waited like 3-4 days everytime before I do! It wasn't normal and it isn't! And btw I am 23 years old!