Need some perspective on this bartenders who number I got.

[cfdagola]

So this bar I go to near my house, i always see the same bartenders and I'm cool with them all. It's cool because i get a lot of DHV because they're all attractive and I enjoy the company when I'm there. I've been told the other bartenders see me as "cool as hell". even though most of the time I keep to myself and just chill, watch TV and leave. I don't even tip that great LOL.

I ended up getting one of their numbers but the way it happened was she was off work, and sitting with a regular, they were chatting then she kept making glances at me, eventually her and the regular came to the bar.

I made some quick jokes she started laughing, soon enough she actually fades the regular out and it's just me and her, i felt bad about that because I didn't want to or mean to steal her attention.

She was a bit intimidating but i manged because her sexual energy was through the roof. she made a few sex jokes, she jokingly said i wouldn't object if you roofied my drink. I told her of course you wouldn't because you'd be out cold.

she loved that. I guess our energy was pretty obvious because other regulars that came in thought I was her boyfriend.

she was saying how i had an exotic vibe about me, and even bought me a drink. It was like she was turning the tables on me. and taking the lead in the interaction.

so i asked for her number but instead of giving it to me, she asked what my number was. Asked me how old I was again, looked like she was contemplating something and then texted me her number with her full name. huge IOI in my eyes.

Question is where do I go from here, she wants me to come to the bar tonight after she gets off work to chill.

i'm thinking there's obvious attraction/interest but a girl this dominant may not wait around for me to set off some fireworks.

TLDR: got a bartenders number, she's alpha as hell, lead most of the interaction, made sexual jokes, ended up even kino'ing me on a few occasions, bought me a drink, said i was exotic wants to hang out tonight.

How do I proceed?

 

[9asus2]

I'm a total newb, and I don't mean this in a negative way at all, but isn't the answer obvious.

You meet her and take the lead before she sees you as a pushover.

Your choice of the following:
- go tonight, go hard, kino and attraction/comfort fast, close.
- take the lead by inviting her out somewhere else and then proceed with above
-you're busy tonight but can do tomorrow/day after, then, again, go hard when you meet

With high interest it can't be that difficult as long as you make your moves fast.

 

[cfdagola]

I'm a total newb, and I don't mean this in a negative way at all, but isn't the answer obvious.

You meet her and take the lead before she sees you as a pushover.

Your choice of the following:
- go tonight, go hard, kino and attraction/comfort fast, close.
- take the lead by inviting her out somewhere else and then proceed with above
-you're busy tonight but can do tomorrow/day after, then, again, go hard when you meet

With high interest it can't be that difficult as long as you make your moves fast.

true it's just crazy because she's so friggin direct with her wants and sexuality. It's like she knows she's a woman, attractive and desired and throws it in your face and watches to see if you squirm and if you do you're "boring"

she's like i usually think most of our regulars are boring, or just creepy but for some reason you are more than that.

And I suppose she makes a point because I don't even know what i'm doing. I get hook ups from the other bartenders who are always wanting to talk to me. And all i literally do is jack around on my phone, watch TV and drink my drinks and bounce.

i'm probably a 6 or 7 on the attractiveness scale so it's not like they're swooning over my charms. It's crazy.

 

[9asus2]

true it's just crazy because she's so friggin direct with her wants and sexuality. It's like she knows she's a woman, attractive and desired and throws it in your face and watches to see if you squirm and if you do you're "boring"

she's like i usually think most of our regulars are boring, or just creepy but for some reason you are more than that.

And I suppose she makes a point because I don't even know what i'm doing. I get hook ups from the other bartenders who are always wanting to talk to me. And all i literally do is jack around on my phone, watch TV and drink my drinks and bounce.

i'm probably a 6 or 7 on the attractiveness scale so it's not like they're swooning over my charms. It's crazy.

Crazy, I guess you must give off a confident/masculine vibe. Just roll with it, it sounds to me like she was attracted to you because you WEREN'T in your head like everyone else. But now you're starting to get into your head as the situation moves on, stop that! Stop that and put yourself out there with her!

Or maybe I've just binge watched too much RSD

 

[Tictac]

Go with it!

Instigate, isolate, escalate.....

 

[Rock Steady]

Strike when the iron is hot. Don't be afraid; you gotta be bold in these situations because they can(and will) cool down in a flash if you don't take advantage.

 

[Maximus Rex]

This sounds like a remix version of stripper b*tch hoe game, except that it's bartender chick hoe game. You have to leery of any chick that uses her looks and seemingly friendly and flirtatious demeanor as means of making money. Though she's not a stripper, bar maids use their looks and personality as a means of generating more tips. So you have to take her compliments about you, the kino, the double entendres, and her buying you a drink with a grain of salt. Just as a hoe sees all men as trick until proven otherwise, she sees you as nothing more than a customer, and a customer you'll be until you can get her on a date outside of her job.