need some opinions on this

[decadentdestruction]

ok , so last nite I went out to a bar , with 2 of my friends .

Any how , I am not a smoker so my friends stepped out to have a smoke outside , we were sitting in the stools pretty much were we had access to the bartenders and order drinks etc...

this chick sat down next to me , my plans that night were just to relax and get some stress of my mind , ( I work and go to school full time , and I needed to get away from those issues this nite ) I didn't go out to pick up chicks , any ways this girl was a at least 8 or 9 HB . This chick was 21 because she ordered a drink and the bartender said hey happy late 21st bday ?... after the bartender said that and she got her drink, I told her, go give your fake id back to your friend lol... she started laughing and said no this is really me ... any way .. after 10 of talking to her it turned out that her friends were also outside smoking cigs .


I number closed her ...

after she said hey can you walk with me to the smoking patio

and I said sure , we walked together , I then went with my buddies she went with hers , later on she texted me later that night , and asked me if I had myspace , I gave her my myspace url ...
she then added me through her iphone .
now ... my buddy that was with me at the bar got a friends request from her

he added her , she ended messaging him all night long , gave him her number . and now today she is 100% on his nuts ,

the good thing is , that my friend told me the truth , and I appreciated his honesty and sincerity ...

but I am just kinda bummed out ...even though I shouldn't be , I don't envy what others have or what others do, but now I feel jealous .. of him.

this is my friend who has zero clue about a DJ lifestyle, doesn't know a single thing about PUA , and has never once asked for advice in his life about girls.

Usually I let things like this slide , but this made me feel insecure about myself and made me question my confidence ...

I told my friend , and told him it was kool, I am not trippin or mad, he can talk to her all her wants,

I got her number and everything ....

and for someone just to step in and take somethin from me

how can I prevent something like this from happening again ?
all advice is welcome...

thanks for the time guys

I know its like 3 am pacific time , but anything helps

 

[K2000kidd]

Did it ever occur to you she had seen you with your friend
earlier that night and was eyeballing HIM all along
perhaps she was only flirting enough to get herself added to your myspace page,
betting on the fact that your smoker buddy was on your page as well.
she goes home and logs into to your myspace, sees smoker guy (probably one of yr top friends)
then walahh asks smoker buddy to add her.

The sh!tty thing being is your "friend has zero clue about a DJ lifestyle"
yet this HB 8 was thinking about him the whole time she was talking to you
and she is now "100% on his nuts" without him ever lifting a finger.

i totally believe in the lifestyle but learned that
sometimes tall and scrwny wins over neg hits and kino
you just have to blow it off man

whats with scrawny people and hot chicks anyways?

 

[decadentdestruction]

Easy, you stop it by escalating quicker! You have to ask yourself, what was it that meant your friend got in there with her before you? Well obviously, one of them decided to step it up a notch. You had the interest, on her part, to do so but you left it, and whilst you left it lingering she/your friend made a move and presto! He's "stolen" her from you.

well when we first arrived , I had not seen her on her friends ...

we were there 1st ... then maybe 45 min they stepped outside to have a smoke , and she arrived and sat down next to me .

as I was talking to her , she said her friends were dying for a cig, and that they were going to get drinks after wards , so she decided to start first .

but I guess, I F*cked up ... I am just trying to trace back were it went wrong ... I did everything that I could , I wasn't being pushy or nothing, I showed her that I have goals .

I used kino, did all I could ( except buy her a drink , which I never do ) .


but I guess my friend got the best of it .

 

[decadentdestruction]

Did it ever occur to you she had seen you with your friend
earlier that night and was eyeballing HIM all along
perhaps she was only flirting enough to get herself added to your myspace page,
betting on the fact that your smoker buddy was on your page as well.
she goes home and logs into to your myspace, sees smoker guy (probably one of yr top friends)
then walahh asks smoker buddy to add her.

The sh!tty thing being is your "friend has zero clue about a DJ lifestyle"
yet this HB 8 was thinking about him the whole time she was talking to you
and she is now "100% on his nuts" without him ever lifting a finger.

i totally believe in the lifestyle but learned that
sometimes tall and scrwny wins over neg hits and kino
you just have to blow it off man

whats with scrawny people and hot chicks anyways?

if you read the reply I posted right now , I tell the previous poster, what happened ...

I could of never known if she was checking him out , maybe she did we went back to meet with our friends .

but yeah , he is a tall scrwny guy . has no life , his GF dumped him .

has no job , he was ***** wipped by his ex GF , and has no idea of what being a DJ means,

I am just going to let it go and say F*uck it , I at least tried ya know ?

 

[brownbear.]

dood! this almost same exact scenario happened to me on my first night ever sarging!! girl opens me, we chat all night, she kino escalates ME, then pulls the last minute switch to my friend, who has some of the worst game evar!! odd sh!t(you can read all about it in my first thread here)

i just chalked it up to situations out of my control and moved on. the truth is it could have been any number of things, and the chances of you finding out what it actually was are pretty slim, so why stress it? just "one of those things"

 

[decadentdestruction]

dood! this almost same exact scenario happened to me on my first night ever sarging!! girl opens me, we chat all night, she kino escalates ME, then pulls the last minute switch to my friend, who has some of the worst game evar!! odd sh!t(you can read all about it in my first thread here)

i just chalked it up to situations out of my control and moved on. the truth is it could have been any number of things, and the chances of you finding out what it actually was are pretty slim, so why stress it? just "one of those things"

word...?

damn man , I am just going to move on ...

as far as my friend goes, I guess every dog has its day ....?

 

[horaholic]

Dont count your friends chickens before they hatch. He might not get shyt either. Also, I really doubt she was using you to get to your friend. Maybe she did though, but its not worth thinking about. The fact is, there was something you weren't doing right, and maybe your buddy was. Sometimes chicks just see something in other people, anyway. It happens. She's just a chick, so be happy for your buddy, and stay on her good side. She just might have friends too.

 

[horaholic]

i totally believe in the lifestyle but learned that
sometimes tall and scrwny wins over neg hits and kino
you just have to blow it off man

whats with scrawny people and hot chicks anyways?

Dude, GET OVER IT. Its WAY more about personality and mind-frames than bicep size. Why are you so concerned about what another dude looks like anyway?

 

[decadentdestruction]

Dont count your friends chickens before they hatch. He might not get shyt either. Also, I really doubt she was using you to get to your friend. Maybe she did though, but its not worth thinking about. The fact is, there was something you weren't doing right, and maybe your buddy was. Sometimes chicks just see something in other people, anyway. It happens. She's just a chick, so be happy for your buddy, and stay on her good side. She just might have friends too.

her friends were hot , but I find smoking a turn off, I spoke with him today , he told me , he didnt find it fair that she just blew me off, and while she started going on his nuts, I am happy for him , but I got tired of re-analyzing the scenario , I have done approaches like this before , at bars, party's kick backs .

and to this day , I have never had a chick pull this on me .

we were only at the bar , for like an hour and 30 min, it took me about 20 min to get her number , so minus that time , were only there maybe for like another hour , after we walked to the smoking patio , we parted ways and me and my friends went back inside .

but idk ... women can be very unpredictable .

one of my flings use to leave cosmo mag at my place . and sometimes

I would read , I had a read an article with a similar story like mine , and yeah women , can be f*cked up in events like this .

it was some crap titled how to snag a man or some B.S....
but anyhow I am over it ... I got school to look forward too, an ok job were I meet new people everyday , and a bachelors degree title in 6 maybe 5 more months , and thats something he doesn't have.

 

[decadentdestruction]

dood! this almost same exact scenario happened to me on my first night ever sarging!! girl opens me, we chat all night, she kino escalates ME, then pulls the last minute switch to my friend, who has some of the worst game evar!! odd sh!t(you can read all about it in my first thread here)

i just chalked it up to situations out of my control and moved on. the truth is it could have been any number of things, and the chances of you finding out what it actually was are pretty slim, so why stress it? just "one of those things"

yo I read your approaches , good stuff man

 

[Alexappleton]

Dear friend, I read your story that I am very much appreciate on this...

 

[decadentdestruction]

Dear friend, I read your story that I am very much appreciate on this...

your welcome