We broke up after a 4 year relationship that dragged me down in the 3 year because of the death of sister. I lost my centre and I became confused with my direction in life. We started fighting alot and I seen signs of her pushing away and been flakey so I ended it.
Besides the fact that we have amazing chemistry , sexual chemistry as well she is very smart , already a teachers assistant at her university and a hard worker.
After we broke up she begged but I didn't listen and ignored her plea for about a month , during this time I started working on my self to cure some insecurities and find my purpose in life.
After 2 months , she told me that she is dating a new guy , she is 21 and this new guys is 30 ; has his own house and everything. Anyways we kept talking and then I figured it's not healthy so I left her in NC for about 3 months. During that time I got a job that starts up at 50K and maxes out at 100k+.
I lost the depression weight I gained and started doing things I used to do again. Throughout all of this , she kept strong contact with my mother. She came over to my house to talk to my mom and I got a chance to speak with her , she insisted that we make time to talk about how things ended between us. I gave her my new number and told her i will let her know when im free. The following morning I woke up and she texted me " If we were to try again , what will be different. I terms of how you treat me "
I took this as a good sign and replied that this is an in person type of conversation and proceeded to set a date for this Friday night. I also know it's set up so that I confess my love for her and this would be AFC as fucvk. But at the same time I did do things that we outright uncalled for during the break up and now I see my part and her faults as well but I want to keep this date from going negative.
So my questions are
1) How do I go about this situation ?
2) Is the guy a rebound ?
3) Is she playing games since she posted on her Facebook pictures of her and this new guy and claiming he is the best thing to happen to her ?
Reasons why I'm trying to salvage this is because , everything between both of us is what I want in a relationship. But because of my AFC actions in the past I threw her into the arms of the new guy. I also slept with 4 different women and contemplated a relationship with one of them but I just didn't like the vibe I got from her.
Thank You.
Besides the fact that we have amazing chemistry , sexual chemistry as well she is very smart , already a teachers assistant at her university and a hard worker.
After we broke up she begged but I didn't listen and ignored her plea for about a month , during this time I started working on my self to cure some insecurities and find my purpose in life.
After 2 months , she told me that she is dating a new guy , she is 21 and this new guys is 30 ; has his own house and everything. Anyways we kept talking and then I figured it's not healthy so I left her in NC for about 3 months. During that time I got a job that starts up at 50K and maxes out at 100k+.
I lost the depression weight I gained and started doing things I used to do again. Throughout all of this , she kept strong contact with my mother. She came over to my house to talk to my mom and I got a chance to speak with her , she insisted that we make time to talk about how things ended between us. I gave her my new number and told her i will let her know when im free. The following morning I woke up and she texted me " If we were to try again , what will be different. I terms of how you treat me "
I took this as a good sign and replied that this is an in person type of conversation and proceeded to set a date for this Friday night. I also know it's set up so that I confess my love for her and this would be AFC as fucvk. But at the same time I did do things that we outright uncalled for during the break up and now I see my part and her faults as well but I want to keep this date from going negative.
So my questions are
1) How do I go about this situation ?
2) Is the guy a rebound ?
3) Is she playing games since she posted on her Facebook pictures of her and this new guy and claiming he is the best thing to happen to her ?
Reasons why I'm trying to salvage this is because , everything between both of us is what I want in a relationship. But because of my AFC actions in the past I threw her into the arms of the new guy. I also slept with 4 different women and contemplated a relationship with one of them but I just didn't like the vibe I got from her.
Thank You.
