Need some helpful tips..

[DJx420]

Hey guys,

So since joining this board / reading some books I've learned some serious things about myself. I did once believe it or not, have decent game. After about 3 years of lurking here something finally clicked and THANKFULLY I have aquired a decent amount of it back....Which leads me to this post.

Since getting back to college I've been given NUMEROUS opportunities to hang out with girls "soberly" i.e. at my place, her place -- doing whatever I guess...My only problem is -- I haven't really hung out with a girl (other than good girl friends) in an EXTREMELY long time sober. I don't know what to do with them. I think about it all the time...For the most part they would come over and smoke with me in my room...But what do we do a) while were smoking? b) After were smoking? Yea I know clearly the main goal is to get some poonani but I'm talking like do we sit down listen to some tunes and just chill? Hop in bed and watch a movie? I feel like it would be weird the first time I hung out with a girl to hang in my bed with her you know..?

So that leads me to this post...I need help to GET OVER THIS STUPID ASS NERVOUSNESS...Deep down I know its retarted of me to not hang out with a girl for the above reasons but whatever reason I always seem to find myself making excuses for myself..WHAT TO DO?!?

 

[DJx420]

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anyone?

 

[romangod]

Be the man you want to be at ALL TIMES.


Cheers!

 

[goldStandard]

This is sorta easy to answer. If you're trying to figure out what to do in those "filler" moments where you have to spend some time with her. The easiest way to make the situation comfortable is to find her interests and spend time with her talking, listening or seeing her interests in action (in a fun way). Be really animated, talk humorously, and don't be BORING! Make her talk and then give funny responses. Try to steer away from serious conversations because that just kills the moment.

Just like what ROMAN GOD said! "BE THE MAN YOU WANT TO BE AT ALLLLL TIMES!!!" And especially be yourself!

If you want to be interesting, think of what kind of personality you wish you had.

I must admit, I still get nervous to act like myself.

but here's the secret. When I'm around my campus and I see my friends I always act animated, happy, and upbeat. That way, when they see me they will always perceive me as an upbeat loud person who is happy. You're building an image for yourself and when people think you're a fun person they will respond to you in a different way. My point with this is, if you want to be a certain way without being nervous, you gotta have that mindset that it's okay to act that way by slowly ACTING that way.

 

[CarlitosWay]

How about just testing the waters so to speak.....i like the idea of the gunwitch method. Be the best sexual man you can without making it real obvious. It's really about being naturally smooth in that moment and the vibe you get will determine how you proceed. (what does he say "go until the ho say no"? lol!)

It's like texas hold em' your moves are like the cards, if you feel they have good odds...give em a go, call, check, raise, call and then go all in if you like what you see in the river (her subtle reactions) and win that pot!

I got a date with a blonde cutie tuesday. I'm thinking of taking her ice skating....jaja never have done it in my life. So it should be fun and something that will naturally get me excited and I'm sure she'll feel it and feed off me to. Hmmm cute guy, cute chic, excitement, possibly lots of falling down and touching....works for me!!!