"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dude_man123

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I need to grow. I feel like... im really tight and serious, you know what I mean? How can I make myself smile and feel comfortable with it? I need to learn to relax...

Part of it is stress-- I need to relieve stress. I need to relax and calm my mind down. I think too fast, and too much. Way too much, and I over think things to much. I need to clear my mind as well... I have trouble with that. I work in a fast food restaurant and sometimes even customers try to force me to smile. Co-workers and sometimes even family say I am too serious.

Any tips or advice?

I started doing a little bit of a workout, because I want to get my upper body a bit bigger. Also, I've started stretching, hopefully it help me relax, improve my posture, and relieve stress.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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sounds like you're on your way, just give what you're doing more time. If you still feel this way a few months from now, maybe seek some help...you might need some medication for anxiety
 

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I have similar problems Dude man. Working out will definately relieve some of the stress and increase your confidence somewhat.

As for anxiety medication, tread with caution! Some of them have nasty side effects like turning your d*ck into a wet noodle. Seriously, I was on them for a month and couldn't get hard if my life depended on it.

Kinda defeats the purpose of overcoming anxiety to meet women doesn't it..
 

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Alkali said:
Jogging helps.
it really does. I've been pissed for an entire week until I got on the treadmill yesterday (same thing basically). Went back home had a cold shower and was much more relieved from the stress I had the entire week.

Hanging out with friends will help you lots too.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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go out a few times and forget about who you are or what anyone will ever think about you and be funny and crazy say stupid things to stupid looking people in store and talk to randoms laugh at those who egt pissed or serious or just blow you of and laugh with those that match your humor or craziness. your worrying about worrying and its creating more worrying. STOP IT! start thinking about other things. you are on your way because you are doing things to try to improve from this keep on exercising and start jogging every other day. go somewhere secluded and sit and relax. DONT YOU DARE THINK ABOUT BEING STRESSED think about how you want life. start daydreaming that you are living it right then and there..... go and do this now if you want. if you dont want to then force yourself anyway and stop thinking about this so you think fast i do to when i do thinkin about things i have to keep mooving my mind back to what i was thinking about but do it if you have to. and if you think too much well start thinking too much about how you want life and start moving towards it with a damn smile on your face.
 
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