Need some help with this Russian.....

[Darth]

OK, there's this movie I'm doing in college...I'm on the crew, in a position of power (not the director though). In the movie is this really hot Russian girl. HB9 if you want to give her a rating.

Anyway, I've been at 2 rehearsals. The first one, I smiled at her, but then just kind of ignored her. No, that's not true. I shouted, "Hey, are you Russian?" when she was on the set. Not the greatest move, but....

The second one, tonight, she sat directly in front of me, laughed when I made a joke with the director, and over the course of rehearsal, was tilting her body so it almost faced me. She was pointing her toes in my direction, kept looking at me, etc. This was good.

I started out pretty much ignoring her, but gradually starting looking in her direction and when funny stuff happened and we both laughed, I would turn to look at her...like we were laughing together.

She had to leave early. I said out loud, to no one in particular, "Yeah, I've got to leave pretty soon too." She turned and smiled. Then she left. As she passed she looked down at me. I smiled. I decided not to leave.

So, did I blow it? And if not, what good conversation starters might be good for next time? I'd like to give this a shot.

Thanks

 

[Poonani Maker]

Well, here's the deal, Darth. I've sat and heard a guy be called a Russaphile by an HB7.5 Russian girl, all the while, I was doing nothing to gain her attention. But she didn't care, didn't really know who I was, because she had 8 or 9 guys latching onto her every word, slobbering, and licking the table she put her coffee cup on.

RUSSIAN women, these days, are to the nth, pinnacle, blah blah blah degree, placed upon the pedastal by all the AFCs (American) who don't know or have not seriously read up on the game WE know, only thinking of Russian in terms of tennis, gymnastics, whatever.

If you knew that she was Russian, then "Hey, are you Russian?" wasn't too smart. If you didn't, then be subtle about it, act like you don't care. Nibble. You have to Nibble to get a nibble. No fvckin around. But I don't think that your blurting out that was bad, because you never know how a woman will take what you say, when, or where you say it. It may have shown confidence to say that aloud, which may have scored you points with her. You did what you felt, which is good, because it's what you wanted to do.

I can SEE when a woman knows she's the sh1t. I see it in her body language. I've never seen a Russian HB10 flip her hair as much as one did in front of me a couple of weeks ago. There were NO other guys with us. She put her finger in her mouth. She's not a US citizen. She makes that known. I could TELL, that she, must have almost hundreds of flirtations with her a day, because of her dangerous aptitude for flirting herself. I don't know if she realizes the danger. America is not safe.

I just smiled at her. It's good that you smiled. It's almost always good that you smile and are happy with yourself IN SPITE of an HB9 or 11. Just let her know that YOU know that she must get hit on by every millionaire 50 year old to cross her path to give her the finer things in life.

Russian girls like this who flirt VERY well, do not see the big picture, and do not exactly realize that their beauty is fleeting, that not too far in the distant future, she'll not be able to use the current currency she has. That she should be more careful, if she realizes that there is more to life than material things and opera, musicals, plays, wine, a limo, coke.

Just be careful and know that Russian girls are highly placed upon the pedastal right now. VERY high. They sh1t, fart, and burp just like every other, but guys don't care. The Russian girls got everything going for them in their favor atm.

Learn, or at least show her, your knowledge of her language. Then she might respect you.

 

[epicwinner]

who cares if she is russian, chinese or zimbabwean

if you want to make a move, just do it!

you havn't done anything yet... so we can't tell you whether you have blown it or not.

don't get to obssessed about this girl.. sounds like you are starting to develop symptoms of oneitis.

you are thinking way too much about her already..... :nono:

 

[Darth]

Thanks a lot for that advice. Unfortunately, she told me today she was married (her husband called her on her cell phone and they were speaking Russian). She's just over in the U.S. for college, but then she's going back to Russia.

My gosh, though, she turned me on. I tried to distance myself after that, but she sat down right next to me and stuff. Wearing a short skirt exposing her beautiful legs.

I think maybe she was flirting to find out if she was still desirable, because at one point she embarrassed me and asked me how old I thought she looked. And going over to the mirror to fix her hair, and telling me she wanted to play piano but didn't want to have to cut her nails. I was getting extremely uncomfortable, to the point where I had to just walk out of the room and get away from her.

I'm telling you, it's so easy to turn mushy with these girls. I am so attracted to them. I know I shouldn't have gone anywhere close to a married woman, but I wasn't thinking.

Anyways, thanks.

 

[Darth]

No, I couldn't do that.

 

[Darth]

Oh man....

This is bad. I am totally obsessing over this Russian girl. Not only is she Russian, she's married. I should forget about it like a bad dream.

But I can't.

It's not just her, it's what she represents. Feminine, intelligent, proud, but somehow submissive at the same time.

I know the way you forget about these things is to date other women, but other women aren't the same. They are no replacement. I see them in their hooded sweatshirt and fake tans and unkempt hair and I don't want them.

It got to the point where I actually emailed her last night to tell her never to let other people pressure her to be different than she was, to wear more causal clothes and etc. (which they were doing), and told her I thought she was beautiful. Obviously I'm not trying to steal her from her husband, so what am I thinking? Why would I send something like that?

Please, guys. Talk some sense into me before I do something stupid like Russian online dating....I'm going nuts here...

 

[Poonani Maker]

Bad move Darth. You left a paper or e-trail too.

Um, I met up with my Russian girl yesterday, and she was as sweet as always and we had fun. That's about it. She's dumb in English, smart in Russian, and sweet otherwise.

 

[handle]

try learning some russian! I've been learning for a few years just out of interest, and I can tell you that there's a great social side benefit. Many russian girls I've met seem very closed off until I throw out a few phrases. The best thing about taking classes is that you get some cultural stuff too -- you think it's useless when your teacher is rambling on about the subways in moscow, but this stuff actually comes up more often than not. Beyond that, you can understand a LOT of slavic languages once you know some russian.You'll be able to understand a lot of Ukranian, for example.

I've never actively tried using the whole "oh I know some of that language" thing in a 'seduction attempt' (it'd be hard without coming across as tacky, but hey, prove me wrong!), but I'm telling you man, it's an interesting culture and a great language. Use your interest in the russian women as a motivator to develop a skill that'll apply to more than just the ladies.

 

[MrLuvr]

Russian women aren't exactly known for being faithful.

 

[Darth]

Bad move Darth. You left a paper or e-trail too.

Yeah, I know. I couldn't stop myself. It was stupid.

try learning some russian! I've been learning for a few years just out of interest, and I can tell you that there's a great social side benefit. Many russian girls I've met seem very closed off until I throw out a few phrases. The best thing about taking classes is that you get some cultural stuff too -- you think it's useless when your teacher is rambling on about the subways in moscow, but this stuff actually comes up more often than not. Beyond that, you can understand a LOT of slavic languages once you know some russian.You'll be able to understand a lot of Ukranian, for example.

That's a great idea. I like languages. Thanks for the idea. I'm so frustrated right now, this'll be a good healthy thing to tackle.