"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Need some help I feel like everything is contradictory

Mrchunglee

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Ok so i've read up on everything important this site has to offer and I still have problems in the field. I hope you guys can shed some light on the situation and could answer this question for me. I know its important to think and believe your the prize but how are you supposed to do that when you want to improve yourself with women.

See I've got everything I could possibly want at this time self improvement wise and it seems as though it makes me feel entitled to have more women. The problem is that my game is garbage, at this point, and I wreak of desperation.

  • I'm not a virgin (slept with 5 girls). All the girls made it too easy for me
[*]I'm introverted as hell, I cant stop thinking about getting girls and just everything in general
  • Everytime I go for a woman I get rejected, Its like they know im desprate and sadly so do I.
  • I hate how when I do get chicks that my mind is clear and calm. It seems to improve every aspect of my life (social relationships, school, dance, and even something as unrelated as training jitsu)
I want to do the Don Juan Bootcamp, but when I do the excercises it makes me feel like im not the prize at all.
What should I do? I want to chase chicks but it still hasn't worked well for me, If I don't chase and try to be this so called "Prize" I get nowhere
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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powpow

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join the gladiator challenge with us, hurry the **** up. group power baby.

you the prize because all these girls are just practice for the bigger picture. super empowering, I think by your post that you would enjoy it.
 

JT7890

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The Prize mentality is something I disagree with on Sosuave. It's a proposition that is based mostly on having an "attitude" first and then believing that your "attitude" will trickle down into great improvements in your life in all areas so you will SUDDENLY start becoming the prize. I think it's bullshyt and voodoo reality, another form of the law of attraction.


You said you got everything you could want self improvement wise, what does that mean? How is your personality? Social skills? Do you have a system established to meet women daily? How do you dress? How is your income level? Education level? Do you workout? How does your body and how does your overall looks look?

Those things are what's important and what women respond to. When you have those things together and women start to respond DIFFERENTLY to you, okay, THEN carry yourself around and call yourself the prize. Until then, until you have done the work, no matter wtf you think or SOSUAVE tells you to think, you are NOT the prize because the girl would still have MORE social value then you.
 

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Keep em coming JT!

The prize mentality is a super amazingly off the chain concept and it was gloriously invented by someone who was probably a damn straight genius and was absolutley perfect in like pretty much EVERYTHING.

But everything depends on the context! If used incorrectly it is total garbage. Same as ****y and funny!

You do want to get the girl right? So when your gut tells you to chase... Somehow, you just know it!... it is the right thing, everything tells you this! Your feelings, your spirit, your mind... What do you do? Do you break the "rule", and go for it? Do you say to yourself: "I am the prize, she ought to chase me, no chance buddy!" If you think like this, you will fail.

Neg hits, no contact, push pull... all are great tools that a dj will have in his repertoire. They are fun and SEXY... ONLY if used correctly!

I would suggest practice and spinning more plates to gain more social calibration... The more you socialize, the more natural it gets. Thinking too much sometimes is your worse enemy. Of course, I say socialize, but sometimes you don't feel like it! :up: And that is a good move sometimes. Don't be creepy. :p

Your mind is clear and calm- good stuff. Aim for that, then! Explain this better: "I hate how when I do get chicks that my mind is clear and calm" Huge red flag imo! What? That is something that called my attention! It sounds wrong.

Exercise. Diet. Watch your sleep. "Clear mind"... It is related to testosterone imo... I would suggest that you need to stop whacking off, it makes you naturally more like the person you wanna be. (Go to: semenloss.info).

I find it awesome you wanna improve yourself! go for it man! let motivation not be your problem. :)
 

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Mrchunglee said:
What should I do? I want to chase chicks but it still hasn't worked well for me, If I don't chase and try to be this so called "Prize" I get nowhere
It's because you're not The Prize yet. ;)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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