"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Buck Naked

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I was wondering what others thought of my situation here.

I've been going after this girl for a while, shes 2 yrs older than me and a teachers' aide in a kindergarten class. I only see her once a month or so, but when i do see her we talk. About 2 months ago i asked her out and she said she had a bf, but ever since she's talked to me and has been more open than b4 i asked her out. I know not to go after a chick who has a bf, but ican tell from her body launguage and the way she looks at me that she has interest. I have put the moves on her a few times. The first time i gave her a half hug and whispered in her ear that she looked lovely. And about 2 weeks ago i was standing by her and didnt even know it until her little voice said hi to me. And during our conversation i had to put my hand on her shoulder and lean in to hear her.

My question is, why would she be more open around me, and notice me after i asked her out? Is she just messing with me, or should i be more aggressive? I figure if i ask her out she would be less likely to talk ot me bc she knows what i think of her. And, she very different around me than others guys. Around them shes more natural, around me shes a bit nervous. and unnatural.

Thanks for your imput boys

~JD~
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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A woman who wants a man would not tell him that she has a man!!! She told you that she has a man because she doesn't want you as her man!!!!!
 

tmpgstx

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Right on the money Puerto .. it's the same reason you don't mention a girlfriend if you want/like a girl etc.

She'll make it easy for you when and if she's ready to take it up a notch, otherwise wouldn't be aggressive.
 
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