I have been going out with a girl on and off for about 11 months now and it has been a rollercoaster ride for sure, she is still married but seperated, I broke it off with her 2 months ago and stayed away from her with no contact but she came up to me a month ago and told me she was pregnant with my child, (her ex is fixed)and she wanted me to be around for her and the baby, then two days later she say's she's not pregnant and quits her job and go's to her dads in Kentucky and stays for 2 weeks she came back and searced me out and then calls me and asked me to come over to her house and tells me she was confused about the whole thing and thats why she lied to me, she practically begged me to forgive her and be with her and my child and to be there for the pregnancy so I took about a week of talking to her and doing some major thinking about it befor I gave in and gave my heart back to her so we have been together for 3 weeks and everything was great and we got along perfect and Sat. she spent the night and we watched movies and I cooked her a meal and snuggled on the couch it was great but Sun. after I took her home I came back over later in the day and she acted totally differnt towards me, Like there was no love or emotions at all, then on tuesday she tells me she dosen't want a relationship with me....I'm so confused she has done this in the past also but it seems if I'm away from her for a week or two she wanting me back so bad... I can't understand how she can tell me she loves me and I can't even be away from her for a day or she goes nuts without me and the next minuet she turns it off and acts like I'm not even there and acts like she dosent give a crap about me or my feelings.... I treat her like gold doing everything for her.... I know the baby is mine, I went with her to the ultrasound so I know for sure she is pregnant, she was seperated before we started dating and has 2 kids by her ex... I'm 35 and she is 28...Thanks
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Need some help guys...
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
DJohnson
Don Juan
Man, break it off, you can not save this woman. I don't know if you have any culpability in her behavior, but the state of the relationship as it is now is sure to bring you lots and lots of pain.
You deserve better.
You deserve better.
We could help you a lot better with some punctuation. But with that said, this girl is a loon. Anybody that would f#ck around when it comes to a pregnancy has some serious issues.
Oh and by the way, YOU DO NOT KNOW THAT THE BABY IS YOURS.
Oh and by the way, YOU DO NOT KNOW THAT THE BABY IS YOURS.
themanwithnoname
Senior Don Juan
Don't be Captain Save-A-Ho. He rescues damsels in distress because he doesn't have much of a life, and when she gets better she rejects you.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
gixxer
Don Juan
Yeah, bro, kid's probably not even yours. Of course, if you weren't wrapping it EVERY time you were with her you can't be quite as sure. Be very careful here. It's quite possible that she went and did some other guy, got pregnant and now sees you as her best shot at having a daddy around.
Even if it is yours, she won't be good long term anyway - her behavior is way too unpredictable and she's obviously a nut case. Do whatever you can to get distance and demand a paternity test.
See you on Cops...........
Even if it is yours, she won't be good long term anyway - her behavior is way too unpredictable and she's obviously a nut case. Do whatever you can to get distance and demand a paternity test.
See you on Cops...........
NewMan
Master Don Juan
Stand up for yourself - get out of there fast.
Tell her you want her to get a test to ensure the kid is yours
Tell her you want her to get a test to ensure the kid is yours
iveyleeger
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If it is yours, are you just gonna abandon your kid? That is what f'd up so many guys on this forum.
I will be there
Ok I'm almost positive the kid is mine but there is a chance but if it is mine I will be there for sure..... I don't know if she is just very confused and isn't consciencally doing this on perpose or she is playing games with me to fulfill her needs at my cost.. I wanted to know what I should do, I have never been with someone like this.... when we are together she is great to me and we never fight and show alot of love and attention to me also but after awhile she shuts down and acts like I'm nothing to her she dosen't say anything hurtfull she just wants to leave without an explanation why and it is leaving me so confused.....
Ok I'm almost positive the kid is mine but there is a chance but if it is mine I will be there for sure..... I don't know if she is just very confused and isn't consciencally doing this on perpose or she is playing games with me to fulfill her needs at my cost.. I wanted to know what I should do, I have never been with someone like this.... when we are together she is great to me and we never fight and show alot of love and attention to me also but after awhile she shuts down and acts like I'm nothing to her she dosen't say anything hurtfull she just wants to leave without an explanation why and it is leaving me so confused.....
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
rmoser dont be such an emotional tampon. She treated you like crap and you let hear treat you that way. If she has split personality its not helping you and is messing with your mind. There are tons of better women out there. Learn from it and move on to better and brighter things.
Got get a DNA test to see if the kid is really yours or not.
Got get a DNA test to see if the kid is really yours or not.
libre
Don Juan
Dear sir
I agree with the others. GET a DNA test!
Also, she is a nut case. She will drag you in her vortex of pain and illusions. Run for your life and your sanity.
If ever, the child is yours and she keeps it against your good advice, you can recognize your paternity and assume your responsibilities with it. However, do it without her!
You can get joint stewardship and you will be as able as her to take care of it after the first year or so.
Good luck!
I agree with the others. GET a DNA test!
Also, she is a nut case. She will drag you in her vortex of pain and illusions. Run for your life and your sanity.
If ever, the child is yours and she keeps it against your good advice, you can recognize your paternity and assume your responsibilities with it. However, do it without her!
You can get joint stewardship and you will be as able as her to take care of it after the first year or so.
Good luck!
DJohnson
Don Juan
Get a DNA test for the sake of the kids, but don't stay in a romantic relationship with her by any means. And if she is reallly nuts fight for custody. You will proably lose, but this lady sounds crazy. I feel for the kids.