Need some help guys...

[Swift Shadow]

Long story short my girlfriend just ended our relationship, she tried feeding me the "I still have feelings for my ex" speech, i should have known this was coming because this is the second time that we've been back together, i foolishly believed that it could work out, i wanted to believe it and yet the inevitable happened.

Maybe i don't deserve advice for taking her back but right now i'm hurting and don't know what to do.

 

[Nkognito]

No real advice to give other than the standard.

1) Instant No contact (AT ALL)
2) Get rid of her number, facebook, myspace and anything else
3) Take a month off from her, if she contacts you, it needs to be by phone. DO NOT RESPOND TO TEXTS.
4) Work on yourself, heal and move on.


There is nothing here but the same replies from everyone else. The fact is the girl said she still has feelings for her ex. You just became "rebound-man" as you did not do enough for her but she was at least honest enough to admit it. Sadly you don't know when she was thinking about him and moreso if he was trying to get with her behind YOUR back. Let her make the same mistake with him as she did with you. The more you leave her in the dust, when her ex gets done doing what he has to do and it doesnt work out then you will be the fall back plan. Dont be that, let her go because she doesnt deserve to have it that easy. No guy gets it that easy.

You dont need this branch swinger, stop being rick rolled and move on.

Tough love is never easy but you didnt learn the first time either.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

For next time, when you're sensing it's about to end...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1751821&postcount=18

For now, just walk away and forget it. It's done, and it's gonna hurt like hell for a bit, but it'll be fine. She's nothing special, becuse she thought you were nothing special. Rebound man, that's all.


At all costs, save your pride and let her go.

How old are you?

 

[Swift Shadow]

Thanks guys
I'm only 20, i've been in many relationships but none of them have hurt as much as this, we were so close and intimate but yet i could sense something was "off" but couldn't put my finger on it.

I'm the fool for playing re-bound man twice, no matter how many times people say it won't work out it's hard to listen sometimes, my judgment was clouded by my feelings for her.

I know it's not the end of the world and i'm still young but the situation is crap

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

Thanks guys
I'm only 20, i've been in many relationships but none of them have hurt as much as this, we were so close and intimate but yet i could sense something was "off" but couldn't put my finger on it.

so, according to what you just said, it really wasn't that close and intimate, now, was it?

When you get that feeling that something is off, that's like your "spidey senses" telling you something is up. Problem is, most guys ignore that gut feeling until it's way too late, because they get blinded by "love" or lust.

Just walk away, man. find a girl who's not on the rebound and ready for everything you can offer her.

 

[PectoralisMajor]

what Nkognito said.

, your young, 20. stop trying to make every relationship work when there are clear issues, enjoy playing the field and banging lots of different chicks -

 

[Rubirosa]

The problem is you. Her leaving you has amplified your underlying insecurities and this has made you depressed. You're not in love with her. If I put a hotter, nicer chick in front of you right now ,who pushed your ego buttons the right way, you would forget all about this dingbat that just dumped you.
It's been discussed constantly, but you need to hear it again : At this point in your life (20), you should be working on yourself. Imagine the man you want to be. Is this chick part of the picture ? Imagine if you somehow "got her back" you could look at her and think "That's my girl ! The one who's into her ex more than me !"
Get some "plates" going and get out of this stupid one chick syndrome...this way, you are not really breaking up, instead you'll just be transitioning from spending more time w/ one chick as opposed to the other.
Let me tell you a story...when I was around your age, I imagined myself living in a certain neighborhood, driving a black sportscar, and having a bunch of girlfriends. Instead, I married a woman who didn't love me, got divorced, and went through some terrible depression. But guess what ? I realized I wasn't depressed over my ex, I was depressed about ME !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Today, over 20 years later, I LIVE IN THAT NEIGHBORHOOD, DRIVE A BLACK SPORTSCAR, AND I HAVE A BUNCH OF GIRLFRIENDS