"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Need Some Feedback for Tonight

JackB08

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Hey Fellas,

I'm new to the board and was hoping to get some feedback.

I'm taking a chick out tonight for what amounts to a third date.

The first date we grabbed drinks at an Italian restaurant and wound out going out to two bars. We kissed a bit, danced, etc. Wound up sharing a cab together home to her place and was denied going upstairs.

The second game we watched NFL games at a bar. I backed off and didn't touch her as much. She wound up having a good time. Walked her home, kissed a bit, called it a day.

Didn't talk to her for a day and a half and invited her to a NHL game. I get free tickets through my job.

So, here were are. Date three. We were pretty flirty and sexual on the phone before we met. However, I have noticed that has tailed off. I haven't been overly sexual with her since. Last night, I.E., we chatted on the phone but I didn't try to change frames to a sexual tone. I have been trying to show a bit of restraint.

My gut feeling says that her interest is lukewarm. I'm just not sure how to approach tonight. I'm torn from being playing it cool to trying to be a tad bit more aggressive.

My question to you vets is, how would you approach tonight? Would you lay back, have fun, and not push for the hookup tonight. Or would you pile on the ****iness and sexual innuendos and try to see if you could get something at the end of the night?

Thanks in advance,
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Albatross953

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Could be anything..lukewarm interest or her cycle. Might be in a week she will be ovulating, and attack you. Who knows...shouldn't change your plan.

Escalate at a pace you're comfortable with. If she likes you, it will work. Don't overthink it.
 

The Duke

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I'd go with your gut feeling. With that being said, add alcohol and put her to the test. If she drops her panties, great. If not then you move her to a low priority list.

These girls know how the game works. Definitely by the 4th date panties ought to be dropping or she is using you.
 

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Since it's a sporting event we'll have to see how many beers it will take. LOL. I guess I'll know more after the game.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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