need some dj wisdom here

[GaryUranga]

Ok so heres the thing, Im goign over the summer to canada I met this girl bout 1 year ago there thru my friend, she met my friend like 3 years ago and she liked him, anyways I got this girls msn from seeing her once, I was still pretty afc 1 year ago, we talked, and I just applied my DJing to her, anyways for like 3 months I got her hooked and that was just online, anyways, obviously that doesnt work but I had in mind the trip this summer for something happeneing and then just plain get over it, so then she started liking this guy in her town and I was likign this other girl too, anyways I went afc on her for liking that guy, blah blah attraction was lost a big amount and things got rough between her and I so I just started ignoring her and she started showing IOIs again after I started ignoring her, it went on for a while but.. shes a senior in HS and its her time to decide where she goes to uni, 1 of her options is my friends uni and she still likes him, so she started flirting with him and he pretty much has no interest in her, hes 100% on my side on this, shes pretty bummed about him telling her he wasnt interested.

thats the background, now the thing is when I visit her Im goign with him, how can I go on about this? in the worst scenario shes goign to be all into him when she sees him again though hes not going to be interested and I can apply all my DJ techniques but if shes just hooked and centered there theres nothing I can do, thats the worst case scenario, I dont think its that bad, this girl was feeling hardcore for me too back in october-november-december.

atm Im just blocking her out for 3 months till 1 month before I go there, then unblocking her and sparking some interest but I reall have no defined way to go with this, I had oneitis for this girl and atm Im actually goign for other girls but I really want to gie this a shot, so advice would be great, ty

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

what youre saying in a nutshell:

girl you like likes a friend of yours. that friend of yours doesnt like her. and you both will be visiting her on vacation this summer?

right? and if so, i have something to say about it, but i don't want to type if its wrong.

if not can you be a bit more clear... if you re-read it youll know what im talking about.

how many guys are involved and how many girls are involved in this story.
it seems like her and a different girl, and your friend, a guy in her town, and you?

and which ones are STILL in the picture?

 

[GaryUranga]

yeah you got it right, I wasnt makign much sense lastnight I was tired

theres just 1 girl, and the ones still in the picture are my friend and I

 

[GaryUranga]

top, michele l'arcangelo, do you have msn or something? Id like to get some good advice on this

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

no i have AIM, but i don't like to use it really that much. i'll give advice in a sec haha.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

pretty much i think you should go with the flow... on this one. what i mean is don't automatically assume she's going to be all into him before you all get together to hangout, you know?

if you automatically assume that... you're going to expect the worse, and you're going to prepare for the worse. when you prepare for simple social things hanging out... well it's pretty much like planning out a whole conversation, which is totally retarded.

if shes getting into you, good... escalate them, but don't make her your priority.

if shes getting into him, and he's not showing interest... great, laugh and play off of it... laugh and say "aw thats cute, you two are getting along so well!" or something sarcastic.

if shes showing interest in you... then shows interest in him all of a sudden, don't get jealous... play it off like you don't care.

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i had a similar situation with a smokin' hot "oneitis".

we met once at a thing, and my female-friend introduced me to her... and we ONLY talked online and she was hooked also... shes liked me all the way though... and not any of my friends. we stopped talking for a few months after i was lame and freeze up EVERYTIME i saw her.

months after not talking i found this place.

we met up at the place where we met (a thing that happens once a year) with friends... and she didn't NOT show interest, but she wasn't completely into me like she used to be. she would have shown more interest... but i didn't show interest in her as much... (i figured she was leaving for college, and i REALLY wanted to get over her... but i didn't also, which i'm still not completely... haha)

pretty much what i'm saying is... if it's been a LONG time from the last time seeing her... you can probably change your image... if you show up looking smoking hot to her... i'm sure you have your foot in the door. you need to bring out your personality to keep her interest.

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breakdown:

- go with the flow
- show as much interest as she shows, but "push-pull" with her when you need to
- first time seeing her in a while... LOOK GOOD!
- subtly let her remember why she liked you before (as in talk about what you two share in common... that first made her get hooked)... NICE PERSONALITY!
- be yourself, but be better... find what about yourself turns people off (talking about YOURSELF too much) and turn it around (into being interested in OTHERS as well).

 

[GaryUranga]

sounds good to me, ID say Im above average in looks so I'll have no problems there, I really have some stuff I need to work on personality wise in theese 4 months though, thatnks for the advice man, mind if I have any other questions in the future I PM you?

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

anytime.