Ok, first of all let me explain the context of the situation.
This girl invites me to go work with her in the Ukraine, right..
Well, all of the paperwork is currently going through at the moment and there is a possibility that I could get denied
permission to work in the Ukraine by the school if in
fact it is found that we have any sort of relationship going on.
The thing is that this girl has shown some interest in me in the past and would flirt, etc.; taking that into consideration I have several questions taken from the context of the situation.
We have webcamed and chatted on the phone....
1. Did I over-react?
2. Did I re-inforce any barriers between us?
3. Did I stick myself in the friend zone?
4. Did I blow my chances with her?
5. Does this conversation sound AFC?
6. Did she understand that I wasn't saying something shouldn't happen between us?
Also, take into consideration that I have not met this girl in person, only over the internet with aquiantances who know both of us personally.
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her: I have a question
me: sure
her: I was curious if the school said anything about you going over seas and working with another sm who happens to be a woman?
me: All I told them was that I have received a call
me: I'm sure that they will review all of the information though when it becomes available
her: I wrote an email to the conference in ukraine asking them if they had sent the call in yet...I should get a response on monday
me: but, I can understand why you asked
her: I don't know...
her: oh
her: hehe
her: I thought you just said I can't understand
her: sorry
me: no
me: I understand why you asked
me: if you mean that they might be a little concerned about it, it's possible
her: they don't seem to have a problem with it in Ukraine
me: yes, but that's not what I am saying
me: well, not entirely
her: the ukraine doesn't have the final say though
me: I don't have to worry unless the school decides against me going
me: they have already decided to back me
her: I'm sure there are other places where people are sent where there are guys and gals
her: so it shouldn't be a problem at all
her: I dont know why I even thought about it
me: the thing that they would be concerned about is if two people were to fall in love and slack off on duty or if two people were to break up and have emotional problems from it
her: yeah
me: the breaking up part is more likely if the two knew each other previously and found themselves not compatible under the amount of stress they have to endure
me: how well a person handles stress is a big factor in a relationship
her: yeah
me: The thing is ......
me: if I went we would have to stay strong emotionally
her: we
her: ?
her: please explain
her:
me: What I am saying is that whatever happens over in the ukraine
me: we both should endure to stay strong emotionally
her: I agree
her: we are going to need time to learn about a different part of the other
her: probably a few different parts, but mainly the part of actually being together face to face and not on a computer
me: yes
her: I feel you are a very good friend
her: and I want to make sure that I will not ruin that friendship by rushing into anything
her: as an aside note...you did the figuring for how much it will be your whole time in ukraine right? 3500 right?
her: including plane & visa
me: something like that'
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This girl invites me to go work with her in the Ukraine, right..
Well, all of the paperwork is currently going through at the moment and there is a possibility that I could get denied
permission to work in the Ukraine by the school if in
fact it is found that we have any sort of relationship going on.
The thing is that this girl has shown some interest in me in the past and would flirt, etc.; taking that into consideration I have several questions taken from the context of the situation.
We have webcamed and chatted on the phone....
1. Did I over-react?
2. Did I re-inforce any barriers between us?
3. Did I stick myself in the friend zone?
4. Did I blow my chances with her?
5. Does this conversation sound AFC?
6. Did she understand that I wasn't saying something shouldn't happen between us?
Also, take into consideration that I have not met this girl in person, only over the internet with aquiantances who know both of us personally.
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her: I have a question
me: sure
her: I was curious if the school said anything about you going over seas and working with another sm who happens to be a woman?
me: All I told them was that I have received a call
me: I'm sure that they will review all of the information though when it becomes available
her: I wrote an email to the conference in ukraine asking them if they had sent the call in yet...I should get a response on monday
me: but, I can understand why you asked
her: I don't know...
her: oh
her: hehe
her: I thought you just said I can't understand
her: sorry
me: no
me: I understand why you asked
me: if you mean that they might be a little concerned about it, it's possible
her: they don't seem to have a problem with it in Ukraine
me: yes, but that's not what I am saying
me: well, not entirely
her: the ukraine doesn't have the final say though
me: I don't have to worry unless the school decides against me going
me: they have already decided to back me
her: I'm sure there are other places where people are sent where there are guys and gals
her: so it shouldn't be a problem at all
her: I dont know why I even thought about it
me: the thing that they would be concerned about is if two people were to fall in love and slack off on duty or if two people were to break up and have emotional problems from it
her: yeah
me: the breaking up part is more likely if the two knew each other previously and found themselves not compatible under the amount of stress they have to endure
me: how well a person handles stress is a big factor in a relationship
her: yeah
me: The thing is ......
me: if I went we would have to stay strong emotionally
her: we
her: ?
her: please explain
her:
me: What I am saying is that whatever happens over in the ukraine
me: we both should endure to stay strong emotionally
her: I agree
her: we are going to need time to learn about a different part of the other
her: probably a few different parts, but mainly the part of actually being together face to face and not on a computer
me: yes
her: I feel you are a very good friend
her: and I want to make sure that I will not ruin that friendship by rushing into anything
her: as an aside note...you did the figuring for how much it will be your whole time in ukraine right? 3500 right?
her: including plane & visa
me: something like that'
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