Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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need some advice...

Demodulate

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been seeing a younger girl and I just cant figure it out..

she calls me all the time, but rarely wants to hang out. If i dont call her she gets angry I dont call her, but if I try and actually do something with her she is to busy.

she is a very busy girl, but always has time for her girlfriends and family, but rarely has time for me. I dont really mind that, but when I do something without her she gets jealous. its like a double standard. she expects me to sit home and wait for her to call and decide she wants to come over.. I dont do that, and twice now shes called and wanted to come over, and I was out with friends.. and was like sorry. she even called me crying once.. but I hadnt driven and wasnt about to make my friends leave.

shes told me that shes never been treated they way I treat her.. she says im selfish, I told her shes just not use to someone not kissing her ass.

anyway, i think you get the idea..

I dont know what to do..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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pancakepalace

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wow!

I think you need to be firm and fair and not fall in a routine where you do kiss her ass.

Make sure you are clear about your needs and wants.

It is not very complicated actually, you set the grounds rules of what you want and what makes you feel comfortable in the relationship. If she can't comply after you explain it to her then why keep this relationship going?

Keep your eyes and ears open for more red flags.

I think if she keeps it up, you should bail.

Seems she is insecure and a little immature.
 

DJ Hawtness

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Let her get upset. Just ignore her and do your other priorities. When she really cares, she'll confront you about it. This is when you ask her that if she really cares about ya, you both would go on a date right now.
 

DJ Hawtness

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Girls are complicated. All of them think, or act differently, so that's why we don't know what each of them wants.

This girl just wants to hold on to you, until she finds someone better. You're wasting your time, lose her. =]
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Manipulative type

I agree with the others. Lose her.

She's the manipulative type. She is trying to put the guilt of her bad behavior on you. If you get past this foolish behavior for a time, it will come back in force some time in the future. Be vary wary.

In the very least, if she has a beautifull body, use her, but lose her afterwards.
 

Demodulate

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well she got the axe....

didnt really talk to her all week.. called her and shes like long time no talk.. I was like is that ok, and shes like I dont even care anymore..

I said "well that problems solved" and hung up...
 
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