Need some advice

[cyjay201]

Hey guys.

I'm a only a senior in High School, but I've had some success with the ladies, and even more after discovering my site.

Here's my issue. I started dating a girl 3 months ago, she pretty much is a girl AFC. She's practically obsessed with me, tells all her friends about me, calls me when I don't call her, and she also has a pretty good personality. So I'm pretty happy about that.

Here's the problem. The last two weeks everytime we've hung out she always insists that I meet more of her friends, I went to her track meet the other day, and the whole time she was just introducing me to her friends. That's when a friend of mine said to me "In case you haven't noticed, you're just an item to her." It's so true too. The last few weeks we never hang out alone, in fact we went to the drive-in yesterday, and before i know it a car pulls up with three of her girlfriends and another guy friend. I'm thinking about just taking some time off from her. Because everytime I go out with her she always comments on how hot I look or what I'm wearing.

I don't want to dump her, yet...I'm thinking when summer starts. Any advice would be helpful, because I'm still learning.

Thanks guys.

 

[cyjay201]

I forgot to mention that I acted pissed off the rest of the night, (due to her friends) and then when I took a wrong turn she called me an idiot. I got pissed and said, "You know I don't know the area, how about instead of *****ing at me you tell me which way to go" she of course apologized.

 

[cyjay201]

Any1?

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

My young bro...I preface this all by saying...you are still a HS senior..very young..it sounds like you have the proper attitude with summer comming and your college years ahead...I wouldn't put too much stock in this girl you are dating...I'd use her for FBs and a warm body to hang out with when the weather gets cold.

With that said, if you are banging her..who cares if you are just an item to her? You said a friend of yours said this? Guy or girl..really doesn't matter..the only people who say things like that are either jealous, or VERY genuine.

It sounds like you have the situation in hand. She's using you for social proof...I'd say that its fair play for you to use her for sex and social proof as well.

Go out with her, buddy it up with HER girlfriends, KINO HER girlfriends, be that alpha C/F guy around HER girlfriends. Become desired around HER friends.

Relationships like these are a great way to open up those social networks and there is nothing wrong with you using her to get to know more people in many influential areas. When you get older..you'll understand this (ie knowing a chick that knows a club promoter that gets you into the clubs for free..etc)

 

[CraigMack]

There is no such thing as this:

she pretty much is a girl AFC.

Women are designed to be this way. That is their natural state of being when society hasn't made them more masculine. Women have a chemical in their brains "oxytocin" which causes them to become bonded to one man.

And a real woman or girl with real woman potential will become obsessed over her man. She will put him before all others. Her mind will become locked onto his every need and desire.

Keep this one cause it's hard to find untainted ones. Once they have learned how to play men they become almost useless.

 

[cyjay201]

Re: There is no such thing as this:

Originally posted by CraigMack
she pretty much is a girl AFC.


And a real woman or girl with real woman potential will become obsessed over her man. She will put him before all others. Her mind will become locked onto his every need and desire.

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Hmm..I've never looked at it that way. Thanks Mack.

 

[Julian]

are you banging this chick or what?

 

[wjh]

Re: There is no such thing as this:

Originally posted by CraigMack
she pretty much is a girl AFC.

Women are designed to be this way. That is their natural state of being when society hasn't made them more masculine. Women have a chemical in their brains "oxytocin" which causes them to become bonded to one man.

Do you have a source for this comment? I'm very skeptical about this because I know many women who do NOT become bonded to one man.

 

[diablo]

Re: There is no such thing as this:

Originally posted by CraigMack
Women are designed to be this way. That is their natural state of being when society hasn't made them more masculine. Women have a chemical in their brains "oxytocin" which causes them to become bonded to one man.

Nice try. Here's what oxytocin really does:
Oxytocin - A short polypeptide hormone, C43H66N12O12S2, released from the posterior lobe of the pituitary gland, that stimulates the contraction of smooth muscle of the uterus during labor and facilitates ejection of milk from the breast during nursing.
http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=oxytocin

Originally posted by CraigMack
And a real woman or girl with real woman potential will become obsessed over her man. She will put him before all others. Her mind will become locked onto his every need and desire.

You're living in a fantasy world. Wake up.

 

[cyjay201]

Originally posted by Julian
are you banging this chick or what?

Yeah, we've only had sex once. She was a virgin when I first started dating her, which was three months ago. She told me that her and her ex-boyfriend didn't even perform oral til 9 months into the relationship, which I can see cuz he was a major ass chump. Either that or she's lying. But there's your background.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

You call this girl a virgin but has sucked a man's penis? HUH??? A virging hor - this doesn't make sense! Don't believe her to be so innocent! A woman that calls her man an idiot for making a wrong turm is a hor - you'll see hor mindset come out the more you see and talk to her! You should have slammed the brakes of your car and told the ho to get out for so blatantly disrespecting you!

Tell her that you want to date her and not her friends!!!

 

[cyjay201]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
You call this girl a virgin but has sucked a man's penis? HUH??? A virging hor - this doesn't make sense! Don't believe her to be so innocent! A woman that calls her man an idiot for making a wrong turm is a hor - you'll see hor mindset come out the more you see and talk to her! You should have slammed the brakes of your car and told the ho to get out for so blatantly disrespecting you!

Tell her that you want to date her and not her friends!!!

I consider a virgin someone who hasn't had intercourse. I don't know if there's a exact definition or something, I told her I was pissed at her for inviting her friends without informing me. Slamming on the brakes? Nah I just told her to never call me that again.

I made her pay for her movie ticket, is that treating her like a "hor" enough?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

A penis in the mouth is a more corrupted act then a penis in the vagina where it naturally belongs!! She wasn't a virgin!!

For her to call you an idiot after knowing you for only a few weeks tells you that this chick has a hor attitude/mindset - as she thinketh so is she! You'll hear/see much worse soon!

 

[Avatar]

I think most agree that vaginal penetration is when virginity is lost. I wouldn't count a BJ as losing virginity.

 

[cyjay201]

Originally posted by Avatar
I think most agree that vaginal penetration is when virginity is lost. I wouldn't count a BJ as losing virginity.

Thank you.

I'm going to have a talk with her today, and if she refuses to conform I'll next her.

 

[arq-dj1]

att *****

the girl just called u idiot? wtf

next without even thinking

 

[cyjay201]

Well I talked to her, I thought I'd update everyone on the situation. She apologized endlessly, and we hugged. But then as we were driving away, she sticks out her hand and says "We're still friends right?"

I almost **** myself, we're dating, and she's asking if we're friends?

I refused to take her hand, and she grabbed my hand while I was driving away through the window.

I'm just gonna not call her anymore and see how she reacts. I've had it with this bull****. Thanks to all who contributed to this thread.

 

[diablo]

Originally posted by Avatar
I think most agree that vaginal penetration is when virginity is lost. I wouldn't count a BJ as losing virginity.

Ditto - 99.99% of the world agrees with you on that one.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

VIRGIN = Of, relating to, or being a virgin; chaste.
Being in a pure or natural state; unsullied:. .
Unused, uncultivated, or unexplored:

Being a virgin is broader than not having a penis in your vagina - it goes beyond this - if you penetrate a woman through her mouth or anus you would still consider her a virgin?? Absolutely not!! She has been used, explored and sullied in a sexual manner and thus is no longer pure in the sexual sense.

The younger generation has corrupted the meaning of "virginity" but the definition still stands regardless of time and place!!! You cannot be a hor and a virgin - these are two mutually exclusive conditional states!!