"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ddubdubw

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Ive been single for a little over a month now. heres the story...My GF (well, X) and I broke up last month. I had been dating her since I was 15, almost 5 years. Things were bad this past year and a half. We kept arguing and she said that she felt neglected cuz I was hanging around my friends a little more. Shes a great girl but i started wondering what else is out there. She was the type that expected me and her to get married. Also, neither one of us had ever had another GF/BF. She was my first kiss and vice versa.

Well yesterday I went to her house to see her family cause I hadnt seen them in forever. She and I are on good terms and we all talked for a while. She asked me what I was doing that night. I said that I had to run to walmart and get some stuff adn that I was going home. She asked if I wanted to go to the local fair. I said no that I was thinking about going but did not want to pay 5 bucks to get in. I also didnt think it was a good idea to go with her anyway.

Heres the question. I dont want her back cause I know it will become the same old ****t. She calls me this morning to tell me that she was glad I stopped by yesterday and liked seeing me. Here it is.... I want to date other girls but should I mess around w/ her? I would tell her that we can fvck but I want to see other ppl. I dont want a relationship w/ her. More or less a fvck buddy. I was tied down long enough and now Im trying to become a DJ.

thanks, Donnie
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You have too much history to be FBs... If you decided to try it out, it will be ok for the first few times, then you 2 will either:
- Start acting like a couple again, because that's the behaviour you're used to with eachother
- Things will get "akward" between you 2, will result in talks about "your status", why you broke up, and possibily more argurments...

Go out and find some fresh FBs!!!
 

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ok

If you want to get back together and date, then date.
Otherwise
Move on and find someone new.
I would not hang onto her as a FB.....
My 2 cents.

Damy
 

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Originally posted by ddubdubw
She asked if I wanted to go to the local fair. I said no that I was thinking about going but did not want to pay 5 bucks to get in.
Holy crap, I almost pee'd myself when I read that. LMAO

Move on. FBs both have the same intentions, which is not the case with you and her.
 

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thanks guys! Thats what I need to hear. Who knows, we may get back together later down the road but I wanna see what I've been missing during those 5 years.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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