EverSure75
Don Juan
Good day, gentlemen.
I'm at what I consider a critical juncture in my life. I turn 40 in a few months.
Anyway between the custody battle and just me foolishly putting my dreams and plans aside I spent my 30s living hand to mouth. I'm currently in poor financial shape but digging myself out the hole.
I currently live in a small rented flat with ccheap rent. My parents live overseas and have offered to buy a townhouse for me to live in. They already have a townhouse here and it was originally bought as a 'family house' for them to uuse when they visitedaand for me to stay when mmy child was living with m e.
Part of my wake up call was realising how much my family contributed to my beta mindset from growing up right through to adulthood. I had made a decision to cut contact with them as much as possible and rebuild my life on my own terms.
My parents have a family business that they've hinted that they want help with now. I don't want to move to where they live and even if I did working with them would be a nightmar. I've tried to help out with the businessas much as iI can remotely but it's proving to me a strain on me.
So yesterday my mother calls and says there's another townhouse in the same complex they have one in and they're thinking of buying it for me to live in.
Part of me doesn't want to accept it because I know it will come with expectations. My parents are very subltey manipulative. At the same time, living in a larger place and being more central would help me alot.
Should I accept their offer or decline and continue trying to build my own life without their help.
I'm at what I consider a critical juncture in my life. I turn 40 in a few months.
Anyway between the custody battle and just me foolishly putting my dreams and plans aside I spent my 30s living hand to mouth. I'm currently in poor financial shape but digging myself out the hole.
I currently live in a small rented flat with ccheap rent. My parents live overseas and have offered to buy a townhouse for me to live in. They already have a townhouse here and it was originally bought as a 'family house' for them to uuse when they visitedaand for me to stay when mmy child was living with m e.
Part of my wake up call was realising how much my family contributed to my beta mindset from growing up right through to adulthood. I had made a decision to cut contact with them as much as possible and rebuild my life on my own terms.
My parents have a family business that they've hinted that they want help with now. I don't want to move to where they live and even if I did working with them would be a nightmar. I've tried to help out with the businessas much as iI can remotely but it's proving to me a strain on me.
So yesterday my mother calls and says there's another townhouse in the same complex they have one in and they're thinking of buying it for me to live in.
Part of me doesn't want to accept it because I know it will come with expectations. My parents are very subltey manipulative. At the same time, living in a larger place and being more central would help me alot.
Should I accept their offer or decline and continue trying to build my own life without their help.
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