Need some advice

[ediceneet12]

Ok here's my situation on the last day of school I gave this girl in one of my classes a ride home. We had a great conversation in the car and before I dropped her off I said i'll see her next year or maybe over the summer and before i could ask for her number she was already writing it down for me.

Anyways the next night I texted her and and she gave me obvious signs that she wanted me to take her out. she said stuff like "you should take me sometime : )" and she did it multiple times and started flirting with me pretty hard. Anyways I asked her out last Wednesday to hangout and she had cancelled on me telling me she stayed out late and her mom got upset because she didn't let her know she was staying out. I got a friend of mine who knew her to tell me that infact she wasn't flaking on me for no reason.

I brushed it off and a few days later I asked to set up a day to hangout today. I sent her a text saying i'd call her once i'm outside her house. anyways she sent me a message saying that she had gotten called into work and that she was sorry.

It seemed like she was really into me with the way she was texting me/talking to me in the car. I haven't sent her a single message since she sent me the message saying she was busy.

My question is what should i do from here if anything since i'm still pretty interested in this girl.

 

[RiceandChicken]

Wait for her to contact you man. That's basically the best thing for you to do.
She does seem pretty flaky here don't ya think man?
Just don't get attached or side tracked by her actions. I think spinning some other plates would help so you can get her out of her mind.

Good that you have interest in her, just remember, don't get too attached that you start being desperate.

Keep on doing your thing man. If I missed any part of your question or feel like my answer didn't help you, let me know. GO HARD!

 

[ediceneet12]

Yo thanks RiceandChicken

she sent me a message saying

"I got called into work from 4 to 9 i'm sorry "

How should i reply to that?

 

[RiceandChicken]

Simple simple.
Just reply;
'Not a problem, we can schedule something later then'
Or something like that. Main thing is don't get emotionally affected by her flaking. If she wants to hang, she'll take initiative and schedule something for the both of y'all. Till' then, wait man, just wait. And spin plates.

 

[ediceneet12]

I don't even know what spin plates means if that means records that aight i'm down

 

[RiceandChicken]

Spin plates: Talk to other girls and schedule things with them and do stuff with them. These girls that you hang with and get to know will be on your 'team' of girls to chill and 'do stuff' with. Around here(Sosuave), we call them plates.

Better or still confused?

 

[ediceneet12]

nah thats fine like i said dude i don't really know anyone from here kinda new,
and i have no clue were to find girls my age even walking around town its empty/dry theirs not really parties either or social events soooo.......

 

[RiceandChicken]

I know the feeling man. I don't know how to help ya out with that. It sucks, just got to keep looking. And try to go out often, explore the area if possible.

 

[ediceneet12]

thanks for the advice homie

but in your honest opinion from seeing my situation do you think i can pull this off? I mean she seemed interested so you think if i go cold for a few days she might text me?

 

[RiceandChicken]

No problem man.


Hm, go cold for a day or 2. No more then 3 days. You'll have your answer as to where she is at with you. Because if she's interested she'll contact you man. I think you can pull this off dude. Have faith and just make the right moves. And hope she feels the same about you.

 

[ediceneet12]

Kk

so don't message her at all in these 3 days not even respond to that "i'm sorry" text? after i go cold what do i do message her?

this is like my final question but thanks for the help so far man i really appreciate it I was kinda devastated that i got flaked on again but i really don't even care now after getting out of the house and talking to some friends. I just wanna see if i can potentially salvage this ****.

 

[RiceandChicken]

Nope. That's what going cold on her means. Don't talk to her.
Now did she send an I'm sorry text to you? If that's the case a good snarky reply would be 'make it up to me then'. Short and blunt and to the point. Then the going cold on her thing goes out of the window. With the 'make it up to me then' reply, you put the ball in her court, and she's gotta decide what she wants to do with it.

 

[ediceneet12]

yeah she sent an "i'm sorry" text

I have yet to say anything back if you think i should say something and then go Cold i prob will, I think i might just go cold then man and NOT send anything at all.

or send the 'Not a problem, we can schedule something later then' but worded differently

or just do what you said in the last post.

 

[RiceandChicken]

Well, it's your choice as to what's best for this situation. I honestly think the 'make it up to me then' or the not a problem, we can schedule something later then' would work, if you want to word it differently that's your choice too dude.

Though the 'make it up to me then' is more straight forward and makes her have to do something else you're history. But like I said, whatever you think is best dude.

Keep me updated on this, I'd like to know what's going on.

 

[ediceneet12]

AFTER i did what you told me to RiceandChicken

she responded back with "So how are you?"

 

[ediceneet12]

its been like 10 hours should i respond lol

I sent her another mesage i think i'm going
to ice her for good after this one for like
a day or two. i'm suprised she contacted me
so soon whatever.

UPDATE: she sent me some other message i'm just gonna wait for you to get back to me. i'm not trying to get into these texting games again. Unless YOU think its a good idea.

Update pt 2: we had a short conversation that SHE started it really didn't go anywhere it was about movies or some ****. I told her i was going to head out and am probably going to go along with ICING her as you suggested homie unless that's all out the window now.

 

[RiceandChicken]

Ya, Icing her will be a good idea dude. Ice her for a couple of days and see if she tries to get back at you. If not, then you know where you stand with her.

 

[ediceneet12]

ok i'm going to go ahead and take as a good sign she tried to strike up conversation with me the morning i set her the

"it's fine, it happens" message but yeah thanks dude
i'll hit you up soon

 

[RiceandChicken]

Alright man. In the meantime, meet some other chicks.

 

[ediceneet12]

I actually did meet a girl today while I was out looking for a job

but uhm heres the update i sent her a text asking her how her's summer been since school let out sincei haven't texted her in a few days/had a real convo.

Would now be a good time to say

UPDATE:
she was like "I'm ok just been working hby?"
I was thinking of saying

"what do you do for fun and then say the line below after she replies"

"Hey you should come hang out with me and my friends sometime"

how should i word it? does that sound fine?