Ok here's the deal. I met this chick saturday night at a house party...kiss close and number close. Sunday she invites me join her and some friends at a bar, I say cool but don't show because I was tired. So monday, I text her "couldn't make it last night, let's get together tonite". She agrees and comes over to chill, we drink and talk for about 2 hrs. She's giving major ioi but shyed away from kissing because I made her feel self conscious about having a cold and possibly spreading it..heh. Well, she and her girls had planned on going to a house party and she invites me but I decline because a) I didn't feel like going and b) I'd been hungover three straight days. She hints at coming back over later that night after the houseparty because she knows I was leaving town for the holidays....she doesn't show, which I don't expect her to. So the next day she texts me say she was sorry to be writing me so late (she'd said would text earlier in the day...wasn't super concerned about that) but that she'd been in bed all day because her cold had gotten worse and for me to get at her when I got back into town. I replied "aight got you...sickie". So my question is should I be contacting her before I get back in town to kinda stay on her mind, maybe like a merry christmas text or something? Honestly I kinda feel like I should just wait until I return to iniate contact to keep a type of mystery going and to avoid pandering to her. What do you guys think?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Need some advice
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