Need some advice

[SamMalone]

I'm seeing this girl that I'm working with (just a parttime retail job). Anyways, I was away but could see her from a distance and she was talking to some other guy, laughing and stuff. She later tells me that guy is married to someone else in the store but keeps asking her out anyways. I was like OK. Later she started getting texts from this guy asking her to send a picture and stuff. I was like WTF. She said he picked up her phone and dialed his number from hers so he had hers. Doesn't sound true to me and she had his name saved so the text said his name and not just a random number. She hates when married guys hit on her though, and has told me that many times. She also sent him a text in front of me to stop calling or texting her and she was not hiding anything. I don't know though; even if she didn't give him her number, which I'm not convinced about, she still handled the situation poorly by talking to him that long in my opinion. What do you guys think?

 

[speed dawg]

She is definitely somewhat interested in him. The phone number stuff may or may not check out, but you'll never know, she'll never admit it.

My advice? It's simple, just like it always is here. Quit getting jealous and just do your own thing. If you have to, just leave completely when this guy comes around (assuming you are at work or something and not directly in her environment). You see this guy as a threat, no doubt, so there's no use trying to out-alpha him at this point.

As titty guy once said, when a girl brings up what another guy did that day (hit on her, called her, etc.), you reply: "Excellent. I ate a hamburger" and continue gaming her. If this sort of thing isn't your particular brand of whiskey, then you better take some time off from her.

One thing's for sure. You act jealous and all wondering what this guy's doing, you WILL lose her. If she wants to fvck the guy she's going to do it regardless. You need to worry about you and live like you have nothing to lose instead of living in fear of losing this one girl.

 

[DJDamage]

She hates when married guys hit on her though, and has told me that many times

Your own eyes do not decieve you, you know she is full of sh1t because her actions not her words prove otherwise.

My guess is that she is an attention wh0re + she has no qualms about hooking up with married guys. Society looks down upon women who hook up with married guys, so she is parroting her good girl act to anyone who cares to listen.

It also sounds to me as if you are already getting oneitis for this girl and as result becoming a frustrated bitter overprotective chump. I also believe that this girl is getting some kind of sick pleasure of watching you being tormented because you care so much.

You should have spun more plates instead of getting attached to one girl who herself is probably hooking up with other guys and in all likelyhood isn't likely to keep you in her rotation very long.

 

[SamMalone]

Just to clarify some stuff:

-She definetly likes attention, whether she knows it or not.
-I do not have onenitus for this girl. Could walk away at any time.
-I did NOT confront her about any of this. I saw the guy talking to her and she told me about him, then later told me about the texts when he sent them. She showed me her phone and I saw she had the number stored under the guys name (I did not ask her about this) and she asked me what she should do. I'd have an easier time believing this if she didn't have the guys name stored. I'm also not worried about this guy out gaming me as he texted her 13 times in two hours after getting the number.
-I really don't think she likes this guy, but the way she handled the situation (still talking and laughing with him, ect) is what bothered me. I think shes either just afraid of being direct with guys and telling them no or she just wants the attention. Probably both.

 

[speed dawg]

Well, if you already had it figured out and didn't want our advice, why did you bother posting this?

 

[SamMalone]

I don't have it figured out, and I know the guy can be blinded by the girl so I'm asking you guys. I'm just giving all the facts.

 

[Scaramouche]

Hello Sam Malone,
Is that Rhyming slang for being alone?funny because we use Tod Malone,sometimes shorten it to Tod eg:"I am on my Tod"....I suspect so and of course that is your problem,that and being quite young,makes you a bit vulnerable Huh? DJ Damage is on the money as usual,listen to him,this is a very low quality Woman,an accident waiting to happen....Sure you might get in her pants,but it will be one silly game after another...Still we have all been there.

 

[DJDamage]

She definetly likes attention, whether she knows it or not..

She knows it and she likes it.

I do not have onenitus for this girl. Could walk away at any time...

So why do you care so much?!

She showed me her phone and I saw she had the number stored under the guys name (I did not ask her about this) and she asked me what she should do.

Are you that dense?! this girl is an adult and not a child so she knows what she is doing and doesn't need your advice. The reason she showed this to you is because she wants you to realise how wanted she is. That is the game of the attention wh0res, they like to brag about the attention they get.

I'm also not worried about this guy out gaming me as he texted her 13 times in two hours after getting the number.

Don't knock off and totally dismiss the guy's game just because he texted her 13 times. To me it sounds as if he is reeling her in.

I really don't think she likes this guy, but the way she handled the situation (still talking and laughing with him, ect) is what bothered me. I think shes either just afraid of being direct with guys and telling them no or she just wants the attention. Probably both.

Don't make excuses for her, she knows what she is doing.

 

[SamMalone]

Ok thanks guys. I only want to keep building experience and am just using this girl as practice for future situations, that's the only reason I "care". Thanks for the responses, guys.

 

[jonwon]

I'm seeing this girl that I'm working with (just a parttime retail job). Anyways, I was away but could see her from a distance and she was talking to some other guy, laughing and stuff. She later tells me that guy is married to someone else in the store but keeps asking her out anyways. I was like OK. Later she started getting texts from this guy asking her to send a picture and stuff. I was like WTF. She said he picked up her phone and dialed his number from hers so he had hers. Doesn't sound true to me and she had his name saved so the text said his name and not just a random number. She hates when married guys hit on her though, and has told me that many times. She also sent him a text in front of me to stop calling or texting her and she was not hiding anything. I don't know though; even if she didn't give him her number, which I'm not convinced about, she still handled the situation poorly by talking to him that long in my opinion. What do you guys think?

You need to play this one down.
Your acting really needy and jelouse right now, but thats understandable.

What this girl is saying happens.

Girls do like attention, now it seems this guy is the one forcing the interactions and not her - unless she is initiating the conversation you've got nothing to worry about, this is simply a pest.

But if and i mean if she starts to create 'time' for this guy in anyway and i mean time where she initiates or leads him on, you have a problem.

And in this situation i dont think for one second its wrong to tell her you dont like the guy and she should avoid him - because she herself has presented the situation to you -

Has she told him she has a boyfriend? Does the guy chat her up when your around, if so thats not your GF disrespecting you thats the guy to your face - i normally don't advocate getting pis*ed at guys but this girl probably secretly wants you to confront the guy and tell him to stop - because her actions are not stopping him and some guys can be really fuc*ing annoying to girls - sometimes these girls want there BF to step in since the other guy is not getting the message.

Just tell him to back the fu** off and see where it goes.

And yes bust her on it and even joke about it -

Stuff like-

Ew a married man, i'm not sure if i can date a mistress.

or

lol some dirty old man seems to have taken a shine to you, i think you should invite him over for a wife swap party - is his wife hot?

Or.

Is his wife hot?

her: Why?

We could have a 4way!

But if she is initiating conversations and making time for these interactions, my post will be vastly different - but so far it seems you have a very bad case of a pest or borderline stalker.

Nice girls attract these types because there too 'nice' to tell them to stop and the annoying pest takes it has a sign for attraction - Then it's upto the man i.e you to do something about it- i.e make her get tougher or you get tough with the guy - and these guys will do 'exactly' what this girl described to the letter - taking her phone and the fact she has his name in her phone is probably because she wants to know when he calls so she can avoid the call.

If she starts to text him, or moves to make conversation with him she is a borderline attention ***** and you dont need that drama, if she is fuc*ing him or not - till you have proof that she is leading him on or keeping him around for the ego attention validation fix - you treat this like a pest who has moved onto your girl because she is too nice to tell him to back the fuc* off.

 

[Allurre]

lol... dude. you're seeing her right?

She's trying to get you jealous ! lol. It's too obvious.

 

[STR8UP]

Ahhhh.....women.....

Lately I have been in contact with a chick I had a brief fling with awhile back.

I am going to be visiting the city she lives in for a couple of days next month and she offered to show me around.

Since I made contact, we have been emailing/texting off and on.

She told me that she misses me.

She started a "countdown" till I arrive.

She told me about a dream she had about me.

She sent me an email this morning asking "Do you miss me?"

She has a fiancee.

She is a typical female.

Enough said.

 

[STR8UP]

double

 

[jophil28]

Ahhhh.....women.....

Lately I have been in contact with a chick I had a brief fling with awhile back.

I am going to be visiting the city she lives in for a couple of days next month and she offered to show me around.

Since I made contact, we have been emailing/texting off and on.

She told me that she misses me.

She started a "countdown" till I arrive.

She told me about a dream she had about me.

She sent me an email this morning asking "Do you miss me?"

She has a fiancee.

She is a typical female.

Enough said.

Back in 2006/2007 I had frequent email and txt connections with FOUR of my ex's . I chatted to all of them several times a week.
Two of them were in LTRs, one was recently married and the fourth was having boyfriend problems.
ALL of them chatted openly and freely to me, and I met up with some of them for coffee and an occasionally night out.
BUT all of them made it clear to me that they were doing this secretly, they all tried to extract a promise of "discretion" from me, and expected that their 'men' would not to be told if we all met socially.

 

[$hort Dogg]

Sup guys, this is my first ever post, first off, this is a ****ing good ass idea for a forum because I definatley need some advice from the real pimps here.

Here it goes: So, I go to college and there's this chick in my class that is pretty hot. She seemed like a nice girl the way she carried hersef and dressed so I decided to come at her with the eyes game. Everyday I kept trying to lock eyes with her, (i was at one end of the row and she at the other.)

A few times, I caught her looking at me, but instead of doing anything, i'd freeze and look away. So after a few days of this back and forth eye matching, i was too shook to even approach her after class, even when she timed it just right where i was walking out the door and this chick suddenly transported herself and she just appeared right behind me. I knew she was helping me, but get this, i STILL choked! I couldn't even think enough to say 'hi'. I kept trying to hype myself up to "holler at her next class" only for class to come and go with nothing from me. What really takes the cake is that I'm actually decent looking, i've caught a few chicks staring at me, but i get shook, what i want to know is after all this stalling after that chick even gave me buying signals, with 2 weeks left in class, real macks tell me, should i even bother striking up a convo with her or should I just cut my losses. Today we had class together and we all had to walk to the teachers desk and put our test on the desk. So I walked up as she walked away, and she walked right towards me (with other students) and she delibertaley looked away as she walked as if not trying to take a chance to even look at me. I felt like she insulted me. should I take that as a hint that she doesn't want me to holler or that she's so attracted to me that she's too shy to look at me?

What do you think?

My question is this, we got 2 weeks left in the semester, should i even bother talking to her now or should i cut my loss?

 

[jonwon]

Sup guys, this is my first ever post, first off, this is a ****ing good ass idea for a forum because I definatley need some advice from the real pimps here.

Here it goes: So, I go to college and there's this chick in my class that is pretty hot. She seemed like a nice girl the way she carried hersef and dressed so I decided to come at her with the eyes game. Everyday I kept trying to lock eyes with her, (i was at one end of the row and she at the other.)

A few times, I caught her looking at me, but instead of doing anything, i'd freeze and look away. So after a few days of this back and forth eye matching, i was too shook to even approach her after class, even when she timed it just right where i was walking out the door and this chick suddenly transported herself and she just appeared right behind me. I knew she was helping me, but get this, i STILL choked! I couldn't even think enough to say 'hi'. I kept trying to hype myself up to "holler at her next class" only for class to come and go with nothing from me. What really takes the cake is that I'm actually decent looking, i've caught a few chicks staring at me, but i get shook, what i want to know is after all this stalling after that chick even gave me buying signals, with 2 weeks left in class, real macks tell me, should i even bother striking up a convo with her or should I just cut my losses. Today we had class together and we all had to walk to the teachers desk and put our test on the desk. So I walked up as she walked away, and she walked right towards me (with other students) and she delibertaley looked away as she walked as if not trying to take a chance to even look at me. I felt like she insulted me. should I take that as a hint that she doesn't want me to holler or that she's so attracted to me that she's too shy to look at me?

What do you think?

My question is this, we got 2 weeks left in the semester, should i even bother talking to her now or should i cut my loss?

Happens to the best of us, relax its not a test.

Remember kid you live once, better to regret something you've done then something you have not done.

Just ask her out, stop thinking so much this is your problem - just fuc* it and do it - see if she fancies catching a movie sometime or a bite to eat, if she says yes, take her number and tell her you will call her later - then ring her when your free and set up a meet up - You only live once dude, soon your going to be 10foot under and all this wont mean jack shi*.