"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Sicx

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Whats up everyone, ive been on this forum on and off but never really posted anything so i decided to join in and talk with all of you =)

As for my question, im having trouble approaching this girl who delivers food to my job. She usually comes in at least once a day to deliver food to one of the employees as their always hungry(lol). When she does come in i cant really get alone time with her since everyone at work is very close together in an open area. Ive only said something to her once (How was ur christmas, blah blah) but never lead to anything since she leaves just after dropping the food off. Do you guys think it would be wise to follow her outside when shes on her way out and see if i can talk to her then, even though thats looking kind of needy? I dont want to ask her to hang out or any of that in front of my immature employees as they will definately have something foolish to say out-loud immediately.

What do u guys think? (Thanks in advance)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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CORVETTE06

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i dont know what i'd do but i wouldn't follow her. do some small talk with her and escalate it over time
 

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Yea i figured i would need to small talk just to get her to become abit more comfortable with me. Ill try and get some small convo's going tommorow when i go to work, hopefully i dont wimp out haha.
 

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Find some common ground with her, look at what she is wearing, driving, tattoos, whatever. Then don't push the issue, let her leave as soon as she might suspect that you are hitting on her. You have this luxury because you know you'll see her again.

Or just go for it. Tell her that women who bring you food are hot and ask if she cleans, too. Get her laughing and go for the number. Be quick. If she shoots you down, oh well, nothing ventured nothing gained.
 

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Man from what ive learned,always go playful.Start off by bumping her when she comes in and be like "Yo WTF Like that really hurt,do you want me to call security?".I guarantee that line or a slight variation to how you might say it will do the trick.As soon as she feels comfortable with you and is OK joking around with you then just ask tell her maybe you guys should hang out sometime then # close that.

Other things you can do is stuff like right after she delivers the food to the guy,call her over and be like "UHH Wheres my pizza?Not only do you give me those dirty looks but you forget my pizza also?".Ive used the "dirty look" thing many times and it works well even if the look is just a normal stare.

You dont need to rush it though.Joke around with her next time you see her,then if you dont feel comfortable YET,# close that the next day for sure.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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