"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need some advice

Telos

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I have been seeing this girl for about a month and a half now and she has had EXTREMELY high IL from the beginning... but more recently has been falling off since we saw each other so frequently. I think I killed some of the mystery. I'm not romantically interested in this girl but she is smoking hot and I f*cking love every second of the sex. We've ****ed about 8 times now.

Anyway, she texts me the other day bringing up one of her ex's (she does this quite a bit and I have learned to play it cool), and that he wants to hang on Friday but "she doesn't know if she wants to". Side note: I am basically her **** buddy that she cheats on all her boyfriends with on the side -- so she has no problems telling me about all the chump losers fighting over her. Although as another side note, this is also one of the reasons I will never date her.

So I told her not to hang with him if she doesn't want to, and that we should rock out instead. She agreed but I can still sense some dissonance in my gut.

THEN, she calls me today and asks if I want to hang out and go check out one of her ex's drum performances. I'm starting to feel like I'm just a pawn to make her other friends jealous and she's actually just using me right now.

My question is, should I call her out on this? In a way I am guilty of the same crime and I can't blame her. I'm afraid if I do that I will just look AFC and jealous though. Should I just ignore her and blow her off? Create some distance? Or go and play it cool, while trying to get in her ex's head as much as possible?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Gangster Of Love

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Tell her,

"Why don't you go to the performance, have him take you to dinner, and bring him over after, so he can fan me and feed me cold grapes while I bang you"
 

kdnash82

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Gangster Of Love said:
Tell her,

"Why don't you go to the performance, have him take you to dinner, and bring him over after, so he can fan me and feed me cold grapes while I bang you"
:crackup: Hilarious. I love cold grapes
 
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