"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well I sort of started dating this girl a few weeks ago. He interest level was through the roof at the start of it, leading up to the 1st date. The 1st date came and went, it wasnt great but wasnt horrible etheir. After this she stayed in contact trough texting and IM's, but soon she stopped, I didnt pursue her any further as I had better things to do(hang out with friends, trying to get stuff in order for college etc.). She came back into contact w/ me and asked me to "hang out". I did, ended up going over to her house. It was pretty akward, just hung around watched tv and talked with her mom. I didnt think it was going much farther, then yesterday she sends me a mess. on myspace saying shes been thinking about me, lol. Other than that she hasnt really been keeping in contact too much and when I try to contact her she doesnt seem too interested. Whats going on here? I dont get it, she seems interested somewhat, but on the other hand she doesnt.
I do like her, so what can I do to pull her back in? If anything.
Thanks, feel free to ask if you need more info.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ummm play along keep in contact and don't sweat it. I would tell her you miss her and then play hard to get. On to more important issues...what kinda nissan you got...I used to have 2 twin turbo 300zx
 
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How is your escalation?

The day you went over her house, how far did you push it? because if your not escalating all that interest doesn't matter. Interest can come and go as quick as you can blink. For now your best bet is try for the meet up and escalate.
 
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^Honestly it didnt get too far. She seems very up tight around me a lot of the time, I've really wanted to start putting my hands on her a bit so to speak, but she just seems so up tight and sort of intimidated. I've always got body language from girls in the past that would tell me it's okay to touch them, I havent really gotten any from this girl. But....I did touch her leg a bit with mine and held it when I went in the hot tub with her a couple of weeks back, if that counts(I know weak, lol).
On to car talk, I had two Nissan Altimas in the past and now I have an '04 Sentra SE-R Spec V, I LOVE it!.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Also me and my buddy were going into it together at the start, I tried to get him hooked up w/ one of her friends but her friend craped out. I tried again tonight to hook him up with another one of her friends, she said her friend will call her tomm. about it, I just told her to let me know whats going on.
Should I keep intiating contact w/ her? Or just cut the contact like I did before and see if she comes back around?
Thanks
 
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