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[Beprot]

Need some advice on married girl

Ok so i have an X that got married like 2 weeks ago and shes been talking me for a while. and we both are still headover hills for each other she only got married because of other lame reasons and doesnt love that other guy.

Just tonight her husband was being all *****y with her and started hurting her and she was thrown out of her appartment. I really think that the problems between them were because of her talking to me and realizing that she had made a mistake with him, she would always tell me she made a mistake getting married with him.

she left him tonight, she calls me up like 5 minuets ago and tells me the whole story now shes back in her mom's house and i can tell by the way she talks to me that she is very much in love with me and told me that she isnt going back to her 2 week husband again ever. ive known this girl for over 4 years now and me and her are like peanutbutter and jelly they go together right.

now im confused what should be my next move, what should and what can i say to her this is so new to me and ive obviously never had this problem before. but when we talk on the phone shes always remembering all the times we had and how she wishes i was there with her. i really dont know what to do because i really care a lot for this girl and was really just a friend while she was married but we would talk for almost all of her free time and she would not even sleep in the same room as that other dude.

what do you think is gonna happen or should happen in a case like this any advice would be greatly apreciated.

 

[KontrollerX]

If you two were so great for eachother...

Like peanut butter and jelly as you put it.

Why in the world did you ever break up in the first place?

Why did she marry this other guy??

And why did she continue to talk to you???

 

[Beprot]

we broke up and because we were in a long distance relationship for some time she was having really bad problems at home and decided to go with the guy that had money at the time. hes 31 im 21 shes 20. when we broke up i was 19 and still in college.

i think she married him because i wasnt there and he was an easy way out for the problems she had at home with her family

and she still talks to me because she still loves me and she has always told me since the beginning that im to her im the only person she loves and cannot forget no matter how hard she tries i did pop the cherry on her if that makes any more usefull information but i dont think it does.

 

[Beprot]

any one else care to help me out here plz im hurting

 

[Mavrick]

any one else care to help me out here plz im hurting

You're hurting over a girl who married another man, but is telling you she loves you. This woman will do the same thing to you. You may trust her, but she will betray that trust one day. It's best to leave her alone because her name is TROUBLE.

She may not even be in love with you. She may be starved for attention. I seriously doubt what she says because she's just looking for drama. Girls love drama, and from the sound of it, you do, too. Just pass on this for now. If it's meant to be, their will be another opportunity.

Good luck, bro!

 

[MANG]

I think you are waiting for a response saying that you have a chance.
Drop the girl, go find another one. There are many reasons why you shouldn't and probably couldn't get back with her. Think about them yourself, because if you just read them off of here you will just neglect them.

 

[Bible_Belt]

She would come running if you wanted her, the question is merely whether or not you want her.

How old are you and her? Apparently, she wants to be married. Are you ready for that in your life? If you go back to her, you are going to end up marrying her. What guys here are concerned about is that you are the AFC wuss in this arrangement, she is a slvt, and the other guy is the dj bad boy to whom she will run off and screw the next time you two fight. You know more than anyone here about whether or not any of that scenario is accurate.

On the one hand, you should probably just go get another girl. There are plenty, you know. On the other hand, I do believe in forgiveness. If she really is that special, you two could be happy together, provided you are at a point in your life where you want commitment. That would be an exception to the norm, thus the advice you have gotten on this thread thusfar, but I don't think it would be impossible.

Do you have another girl now? What are you losing to just go fvck the girl for a while? She's obviously on the rebound and very easy right now. If you are not screwing her, some other guy is going to be very soon. If that scenario bothers you, then you obviously have feelings for her.

 

[yama600rr]

get over her you pathetic loser!!!! she's married, its over for you! dont you get that through your dumb head! she's playing you like a a lil b!tch... she is marrieeedddddd! its over, done with! you have to get over this girl, the sooner you do the better. dont talk to her or have any more contact with her, begin your healing process right now... it will take you some time, but you'll get over her, she aint all that.

 

[AKA FLEX]

What did the barber say? NEXT!

She dumped you for an older man with money who she is now miserable with. If you take her back, she'll know that you are wrapped around her finger and she'll walk all over you for the rest of your relationship - that is, until she leaves you for someone else for an equally shallow reason.

Get over her fast and get under another chick.

 

[ashman1]

yea, i agree with all thats been said here ! , ive been in this type of postion quite a few times . . . for example

i was seeing this girl , a sister of a friend of mine , went out once, and hung out alot. then she told me that she wasnt looking for a relationship at that time . then my friends wife decided to try and hook her up with someone who she thought was more " suitable" for her . . .

then she walks up to me with a simle on her face , and nicely tells me " not to call her again , shes seeing someone and doesnt want me to get in the way ! " and then 2 months later shes married to this guy who turns out to be a friend of mine !

basically she married him cause he had more money than me, and i was this "broke black guy " that wasnt worh her time . . .

one year later , shes miserable with him , he lost his job, and i'm making 60k a year and lovin life !

so move on bro. and let her live with her obvious , bad judgement - N

 

[Beprot]

Yeah now i realize what an idiot ive been, hey but you learn now i do think that she is nor worth money, time, nor effort. Besides im barely 21, just got a job as a teacher making 40k a year for the first time in my life and shes misarable. karma sucks i guess