"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Need some advice/insight w/convo I had with my girl

crazyquicks

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aight fellow djs i've been with my girl for a little more than a year and i know i should of dumped her ass 10 months ago but thats a diff story. weve been through alot..well i have anyway when it comes to dealing with her bs. Her parents are split which makes her 10x more insecure than ur typical girl and she just worries about everything. If i tell her i love her she replies "for now" and she just has no confidence. Now i know this is a big no no to most but we are goin to school together this fall but this doesnt matter to me cause regardless if im with her or not i just gonna do me, get my education and party with my friends. I wont let her get in my way Believe dat fellow djs!!

ok i had this convo with her about school and trust me this aint the first lil argument we've had about this..but as far as im concerned her and i arent together anymore cause i cant endure her *****in and im confident when it comes to the ladies. so heres parts of the convo from aim tonight..i just wanted to see if u guys thought i handled the situation nice or not.

her): you make it seem like nothing in this relationship bothers you and that nothing can go wrong
me): i never said it would be easy
her): idk you just seem so worry free about it
me): because i dont let it get to me
me): im that damn good

me): why are u mad that i think everything will be fine at school
her): im not mad that you think that i just dont understand why
her): and part of me says we shouldnt be together in school because this might not be right and then other part of me says we should cuz if we do split and i decide i want to be with you after all i wont get you back
me): just do what u want and what u think is right..i want to be with u but if u think its more wrong then right then idk thats for u to decide
her): then we wont be together because your making it seem like you dont care
her): so just be single
me): i do care..im not gonna sit here and say be with me if thats not what u want
her): then be single
her): because it seems like you dont care
iVerSonSixerAi3 (9:27:52 PM): wrong
her): and im not going to fight with you over it
she signed off at 9:28:28 PM.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My first piece of advice is stop discussing things over AIM, let alone serious issues. My other piece of advice is if this chick is a source of major negativity, decide if you want that in your life - because it will drag you down.
 

Lucas718

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Are you having any fun at all being with this chick? Wouldn't it be refreshing to not have to deal with all this BS anymore? Look, I've dated a chick like this and she's just not going to be happy no matter what you do. She's going to pile all her problems up on you and make you out to be the bad guy if you should dare to question her about it. All this negativity is just going to drag you down. She's not going to change. Wish her good luck and send her on her way, that's my advice.
 

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yeah tru...this girl needs some serious therapy cause her thinkin is all screwed up and ive tried everything and even though i did made huge progress i just seem to be not gettin anywhere with her lately. So like u said lucas im just going to end it. Thanks guys...time to go clubbin this weekend!
 
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