Need some advice I really feel like going off on women or hitting please help.

[thelonewolflegend]

Being situation I am in and I am trying to meet women i am not getting anywhere. I had party last night for birthday and I was trying to get women to come to meet or hangout and only my friends gfs came and a ladyfriend i am not dating thats it. Mostly my guy friends they all wouldnt come ignore me blow off or couldnt make the drive and its getting to me depressing me please help.

Thanks

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

If you are starting to have feelings of rage or desires to enact violence towards women, you should talk with your parents about seeing a counselor. The counselor can probably provide you with some really great help with this issue.

 

[salinechow]

You asked

You posted so that means you must want advice. If I spend my time...you better take it. And if you do, you will be transformed. Here goes.

I dont know you for sh!t, but I can see you through your post. Here is what I see. "Me Me ME me me meME".
You are to focused on yourself and your troubles. Im sorry you had a crap party. I have been there. Yet, it is one day, one chapter in a long life of ups and downs.

Here is how to help: Volunteer!

You need to get out of your own head and woes. I had a very dark time come upon me about 3 years ago. (Nothing to do with women.) I was depressed to the point of hallucinations because of lack of sleep and emotional trauma. I can expand on this privately if you need me too. I sought counseling, to no relief. In 2 sessions I saw no need for it. Then, a wise man (my father) told me something that changed me forever. "The best way to help yourself when you are in a spiral of despair; is to help others." It sounds corny and kitschy, I know. I thought so too.
I thought "How the f^ck can I be of any service to anyone right now when I am feeling this down and out". BUt....I listened. I was willing to try anything. You know what, it worked. It worked wonders. When you are focusing on those less fortunate and you feel their gratitude (and even if you dont) you cannot be focused so much on yourself. The saying goes “Feeling depressed is rage turned inwards"

Do everything you can to muster the strength to find a way to help others. You will be alleviated of what you are feeling. I promise. But you must DO IT. Dont think it through. Make it happen. Trust me. You asked, here is your key.

Also, as a side benefit, you will meet new and great people. You will make great stories. You will garner self confidence and it will give back to you. All will help with women.

As always, I am willing to be there if you need. In honor of the SS forum giving to me what it has.

 

[thelonewolflegend]

Ok but i thought not supposed to do things for women n stuff etc and women dont wanna good guy

 

[salinechow]

You have misunderstood the spirit of this website. You should always be kind and nice. Everybody likes that kind of a person. The key is to not worship women oor do things for them unreciprocated. The key is to guard your heart. Don't be an as2hole or unkind but be aloof and limited. A DJ in myour opinion does not mean being a unrelenting jerk but just someone makes a girl work as hard as you would in your past to earn you as a prize. This doesn't mean be a jerk for the sake of it but to protect the heart. None of that has to do with what you do in your private life. And right now I believe helping others will help you. In some ways it will reward you more than the companionship of a girl. Yet, I assure you, it will also help you meet a girl. Maybe even a girl that doesn't need the typical PUA material and dosent care about sh1t tests or any of the other games. Who knows. That's not why to do it though. Like everything else at SS you do it for yourself and then chicks and success with chicks comes as a side benifit. Usually, more quality women too. If it happens that way.

 

[thelonewolflegend]

i cant do volunteer right now unless girl or someone takes me my dad wont do it i cant drive right now for a while so yeah i dunno im trying to figure out this limit thing when do you contact the girl to get her to go on date? how often do you see or and call or txt her?

 

[salinechow]

Your inner frame is very weak. We are here to help. Where there is a will, there is a way. Either share more details here and allow us to brainstorm it with you or PM me. Yet, this thread is not about girls at all OP this is about you. Read what you write as if you are us. Again, this is what it sounds like. "Sniffle sniffle woe is me. me me me me." That attitude is going to make women run away from you every time. You must become a man of action. Again, share your details and we can work on this with you. Also, be more mindful of your posts grammar. It difficult to decode what you are trying to say. This is a forum in which all we have to go on is your words.

Give us your age, location, transportation options, schedule, siblings, workout regimen, name one skill you are amazing at, best physical quality, and worst. Last relationship if any. Length of time. Etc.

All details can be approx. Share only what you wish but be very honest. You are not here to impress us. And so far, by the sounds of it, you are aware of that. Lets do this!

 

[hop On hop Off]

Use some commas in your sentence and less slangs.

 

[Heisenberg]

Do you all not see that this person is a troll? Quit taking him seriously.

He's not. He posted his Instagram some time ago. If you saw that I think you'd agree what he needs is some support and to maybe accept his differences, you know what I'm saying?

Wolf, I know it's been written to you before: stop worrying so much about getting women or your current (temporary) handicap. I remember looking at your Instagram and it's obvious you have some strong interests. Just enjoy those and the other stuff in life will come. It seems like you have friends and you have at least hung out with some women you're interested in, even if you haven't gotten the results you wanted. The fact that you understand you need to go for what you want and not just be some chump nice guy who hopes girls will fall into his lap puts you way ahead of other guys.

But please, no references to violence against women. Hitting a girl for any reason is not okay, but it is especially bogus if your reason is just some kind of general frustration that women are not giving you the attention you deserve. Remember, women and this life owe you nothing. You've just got to make what you can out of your however many trips around the sun.

Best thing for you right now is to take all the energy you are using to study women and dating, and put it toward self-improvement. On here, Book of Pook is a good place to start.

If your history here is any indicator, you will ignore this advice because you're not hearing what you want: you just want a woman now because you want one, end of story. But that's entitlement. If you want anything of value, you've got to work for it. It's clear you are too entitled or too lazy or too depressed to put in the work that is required to improve yourself. But if you want to see changes in your life, it's not going to come easy. Got to do the personal work, man. You have got to.