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Need some advice. Girl I like called me back. Rejected!

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Re: Re: Need some advice. Girl I like called me back. Rejected!

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
She doesn't desire you - she is being blunt with you - leave her alone - you look desperate - never ask a girl "Why?" because it doesn't matter, it will not change her answer nor will it soothe your rejection!!!
I learned that the hard way with my ex. Yeah, don't ask why. Girls seem to think that you should already "know."
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by xsonik
bro, did you even read any of my fellow don juans replies? drop it, i know it may be hard, but drop it. she may be a nice girl, but you played your cards wrong. i cant believe your letting this woman do this to ya.

pretty does not equal nice.
cute does not equal nice.
nice equals nice.


judge her on her actions. as for you acting like a straight up AFC, just work on it and be ready to catch the next wave.
But I still like her though cause I like her personality.
 

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You idiots!

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oops. my sign got messed up. Anyways, midwestguy is obviously a TROLL, otherwise he'd be in prison for stalking; and even then, he would be in protective custody so as not to get anally raped.
 

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Chill out man, people often make the mistake that happiness is outside themselves. Find something you like doing. Accomplish a small goal of yours. Get over her. Shes not interested so stop wasting your life being sad about it.

happy vday
 

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Listen bro-heres the answer to your root questions, and its up to you to do with it what you choose.
1. She's doesnt like you in any romantic way
2. There's is nothing you can do to change that fact.
3. What "she" looks for in a man is different from the qualities you posses.
4. Your spirit and her spirit just doesnt match. You like her but she does not like you.
5. Everything she said about not being attracted to you is all true, and she is not playing any type of games.

The question you need to be asking yourself is "Why are chasing women who you aren't compitable with instead of looking for the the ones you are".
 

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Originally posted by Royal Elite
Listen bro-heres the answer to your root questions, and its up to you to do with it what you choose.
1. She's doesnt like you in any romantic way
2. There's is nothing you can do to change that fact.
3. What "she" looks for in a man is different from the qualities you posses.
4. Your spirit and her spirit just doesnt match. You like her but she does not like you.
5. Everything she said about not being attracted to you is all true, and she is not playing any type of games.

The question you need to be asking yourself is "Why are chasing women who you aren't compitable with instead of looking for the the ones you are".
Shes cute thats why.
 

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Originally posted by midwestguy
Shes cute thats why.
Then if the reward of chasing a girl who doesnt like you is worth the insults, and all the pain you are going through, then you need to continue doing it. It's obvious that chasing a girl who doesn't like you , is spirtually satisfiying to you then you should by all means continue. If this is what causes you happiness then you have my support brother.
 

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Originally posted by Royal Elite
Then if the reward of chasing a girl who doesnt like you is worth the insults, and all the pain you are going through, then you need to continue doing it. It's obvious that chasing a girl who doesn't like you , is spirtually satisfiying to you then you should by all means continue. If this is what causes you happiness then you have my support brother.
Then it is. Shes a nice gal also shes always polite to people and even when she called me the other night she was polite said I was a nice guy but she said I would hate going out with her cause we have nothing in common. Should I have told her I would love going out with her cause shes hot? I told her I think shes a pretty girl. I mean at least I tried and threw everything I could at her and did everything I could to get her.
 

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Should I tell my therapist about it? Since I pay money to him is that what hes there for?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Shes a nice gal also shes always polite to people and even when she called me the other night she was polite said I was a nice guy but she said I would hate going out with her cause we have nothing in common.
She's just trying to make you not like her......because she doesn't like YOU. Obviously you aren't getting the hint. She would rather have you hate her and not have to deal with you...then you being obsessed with her and having to constantly fend you off.

You are not a nice person, sorry. Nice people don't take advantage of others under almost any circumstances. You will keep calling her just because you know she doesn't have the guts to be mean and tell you off harshly. You know she doesn't like you, but you'll continue persuing her just because you can. You are not a nice person for taking advantage of her weakness. Her saying you are a 'nice guy' is just trying to make you feel better because she knows how obsessed you are with her, and she feels guilty.

Hell....i feel i just wasted 3 minutes of my life i'm sure midwest guy will read this reply once and ask the same questions over and over again....
 

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I sympathize with you because I know what it's like to be obsessed with a girl. At least she's not teasing you. Trust me, you're better off getting rejected than having her pretend she "might" be interested and leaving you hanging, until you lose every ounce of dignity that's in your body. Take control of your own life.
 
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Well, here's what I woulda done: Taken the rejection for what it was and never talk to her again until i see her at work again during the summer. at that point i'd cleverly get her to talk about her other friend who likes you and maybe get everyone to hang out and maybe you'd get some summertime action. But obviously you are not ready for something like that, you're skills aren't there.

In my opinion, the girl was nice. She rejected you flat out without playing any games. She didn't mislead you, let her take you on a date and spend money on her, or shut you down in an embarassing way. You have no chance with her. ever. Not that you can't get girls; it just she isn't for you, thats all. There are plenty other girls out there who will get with you.

I know how people in the collegiate athletic circle are. They like to date other college athletes. Which is fine. But know your boundaries. And yes, you need to talk to your therapist about this. It IS a problem if you are gonna continue going after her. its a HUGE problem in fact. take care of yourself man.
 

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Originally posted by TurboOverCubicInches
Well, here's what I woulda done: Taken the rejection for what it was and never talk to her again until i see her at work again during the summer. at that point i'd cleverly get her to talk about her other friend who likes you and maybe get everyone to hang out and maybe you'd get some summertime action. But obviously you are not ready for something like that, you're skills aren't there.

In my opinion, the girl was nice. She rejected you flat out without playing any games. She didn't mislead you, let her take you on a date and spend money on her, or shut you down in an embarassing way. You have no chance with her. ever. Not that you can't get girls; it just she isn't for you, thats all. There are plenty other girls out there who will get with you.

I know how people in the collegiate athletic circle are. They like to date other college athletes. Which is fine. But know your boundaries. And yes, you need to talk to your therapist about this. It IS a problem if you are gonna continue going after her. its a HUGE problem in fact. take care of yourself man.
She kept me hanging for a month. She kept saying at work she would call me and would say shes busy or something. Why didnt she tell me before when I askled her out? When I asked her out she seemed interested a little and even asked where we should go. Then she started trying to blow me off. I even spent 25 dollars for a gift card for xmas right after I asked her out and she gave me a hug. Yes it could be like you said she didnt want me to feel hurt since I wanted to go out with her bad and since she was talking over the phone it was a little easier for her. She did call me twice though that night to talk to me so thats good at least. It sounded like there was a bunch of girls in the background. What do you think she told her friends up at school about me who were are sitting around?
 

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Maybe I should just give up and not date? I mean I'll never get to date a good looking girl.:mad: I wanted to turn around and tell her shes a b*tch for not going out with me.
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

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Originally posted by midwestguy
What should I tell me Phychatrist when I see him this week>
Tell him that you are "CRAZY" about a girl!:D
 

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I think the original poster of this thread is a forum troll.

A: The sky is blue.
B: No its not, its orange.
C: The sky is blue.
B: But I think its orange, its pretty.
D: The sky is blue.
B: The color orange is so pretty, why can't the sky be orange?
E: The sky is blue.

Anyhow I hope you get my point Midwest.

If you are trule genuine in your posts, please read the DJ Bible. You are a lost cause until then.
 

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Originally posted by vrad
I think the original poster of this thread is a forum troll.

A: The sky is blue.
B: No its not, its orange.
C: The sky is blue.
B: But I think its orange, its pretty.
D: The sky is blue.
B: The color orange is so pretty, why can't the sky be orange?
E: The sky is blue.

Anyhow I hope you get my point Midwest.

lol
 

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I don't want to come off sounding like an *******, but is this guy for real? He might be trolling. It sounds like he knows exactly what the DJB says and he's just taking it and saying the opposite. Like giving the girl a $20 giftcard AND asking her out everyday AND asking her why she doesn't like him AND "but she said she wants me as a friend," etc. etc.
 

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