Heres the situation: Ive been with my GF for over a year now. We live together currently, shes in grad school studying plant molecular biology and Im working for Wells Fargo. I have a bachelors and shes getting her masters. Now here is where I dont know what to do. She might be done this December with school and will be getting a job soon. Her job will most likely be higher pay than what I am currently doing. But I am looking to become a financial advisor which probably pulls in more money. But im not counting on it. In my line of work I could get a job anywhere in the US most likely with her its a lot more specific in where she could probably work. My thinking is that she will probably put her job first due to the fact of the masters degree and pay she has and will get. Im willing to move with her cause I think I could get a job wherever she lands. Does this seem fine? I also dont know if I should bring it up or if she should. let me know thanks
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Need some advice from experience
- Thread starter MKS82
- Start date
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
My oldest sister makes 6 figures a year and her field is highly competitive and doesn't have as many job openings. She does contract work for NASA. When her contract of quite a few years runs out, she has to find another job...and a few years ago had to either not work in her field and make much less money, or relocate from CA to MD. Her husband gave up his Electrician business because she made more money. He only works part time now and is semi-retired because if he works they'll lose his whole income by going up a tax bracket. They've been married 30 years, have two grown sons and her making more money works fine for them.
Look at it this way...if a woman who has more earning power than you is with you at least you KNOW it's because she wants YOU and not your money. And what guy doesn't want his woman wanting HIM instead of his cash? Her making more will only be a problem if you make it one.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
dude thats awesome....get that damn savings for the house, cars and life you might share with her!
the more she makes the better for you and her.!!!!
if she makes enyf you can be MR MOM
the more she makes the better for you and her.!!!!
if she makes enyf you can be MR MOM
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
If you two are really serious then I'd suggest bringing it up, and at least seeing where you both stand.
If her job is a bit more location specific, and you're more flexible, then why not decide between the both of you that she should apply wherever she has to, and then once that's nailed down, you can start looking in that area for work, as well.
This is all according to how serious you both are.... Does it look like you'll be getting married, etc.. etc?
If not then maybe you'll both have to part ways..... it's a tough call, when we don't really know how long you've been serious and what plans you've made.
If her job is a bit more location specific, and you're more flexible, then why not decide between the both of you that she should apply wherever she has to, and then once that's nailed down, you can start looking in that area for work, as well.
This is all according to how serious you both are.... Does it look like you'll be getting married, etc.. etc?
If not then maybe you'll both have to part ways..... it's a tough call, when we don't really know how long you've been serious and what plans you've made.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Evangenlion
Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 9, 2005
- Messages
- 183
- Reaction score
- 0
- Age
- 44
Get a joint account.
then explain to her "your cash-a is me cash-a" logic.
lol
if i was to advise you about being a don, i'd say "beatch, how can u let your woman earn more then u etc....men lead...etc.... alpha etc"
but i see your just a normal guy. with normal fears.
you never know, you might earn more then her.
but still get the joint account.
talk to her about it. she's your girl friend, its something you two need to discuss, just not with us (not with people who'll always give opposing opinions).
then explain to her "your cash-a is me cash-a" logic.
lol
if i was to advise you about being a don, i'd say "beatch, how can u let your woman earn more then u etc....men lead...etc.... alpha etc"
but i see your just a normal guy. with normal fears.
you never know, you might earn more then her.
but still get the joint account.
talk to her about it. she's your girl friend, its something you two need to discuss, just not with us (not with people who'll always give opposing opinions).
She has more earning power...
You have more flexibility...
My girl earns 30% more than me and neither of us have any issues with it and again, I can probably work in a greater number of areas/locations but hers is more specific... it's just the way it is.
There's nothing to be confused about here. If you two are fairly serious about each other, just let it pan out. If you can easily follow her to where she can get work, then do it, no problem.
You have more flexibility...
My girl earns 30% more than me and neither of us have any issues with it and again, I can probably work in a greater number of areas/locations but hers is more specific... it's just the way it is.
There's nothing to be confused about here. If you two are fairly serious about each other, just let it pan out. If you can easily follow her to where she can get work, then do it, no problem.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
But I am looking to become a financial advisor which probably pulls in more money.
I have had this job - at least I had a series #7 for 7 years. The title sounds impressive, but it is a sales job. You have to always bring in new money. Many advisors have to telemarket to get new clients. Most people fail in the business, and that is why the pay is good for the few who make it. Good luck.
I have had this job - at least I had a series #7 for 7 years. The title sounds impressive, but it is a sales job. You have to always bring in new money. Many advisors have to telemarket to get new clients. Most people fail in the business, and that is why the pay is good for the few who make it. Good luck.
Did you have a 66 also? Did you work at a bank? or did you work for a financial firm? my friend works at a bank making almost 10k some months plus base. Its a lot of incoming. I currently work for Wells Fargo so shouldnt be a huge problem getting in.