Need some advice - don't want to appear hungry

[TheGambino]

Hey fellas,

Getting some strong IoI's from a girl that works at the gym, she's attractive.
So she always smiles at me and we had some short convo's and I go on to my training.

So my body is changing, going forward due my training schedule and diet. I went training last week and she was winking and smiling at me. Didn't think much of it, just flirted back and moved on. While doing some bench presses she starts to wink again and smile at me a couple of times. So I approached her and had a good convo for 30 minutes. She kept talking, the vibe was good and I ended the convo, she didn't want to stop talking though. Talked about regluar stuff, like work and her school and she has a business and told her I own one too, dudududu. Didn't want to appear to hungry so I asked for her business instagram and I follow it, she did not follow me back though!

Ok so the gyms are closed now by our government so I can't see her anymore there for the next 6 weeks due quaraintaine. I wanted to game her more if I ran into her.

So guess what. My best friend's girlfriend is her best friend for 15 years! So I guess she knows, also my friend told me that I talked to her drunk in the club 1.5 years ago somewhere but we only talked a minute and nothing happened more.

I dont know if she knows that it's me and that im that guy, and that she knows that her friends boyfriend is my buddy. I guess she does but she is attracted otherwise she wouldn't flirt with me.

So i was thinking, should i follow her private instagram account and dm her or just wait out the quarainte and talk to her live in the gym? I can also use my buddy to set something up but that's a bit lame, my gut feeling says.

Oh by the way my friend says that she is kind of getting serious with a guy right now! but he also said that he saw her with 3 different guys in 3 years he knows her.

Any thoughts?

 

[TheProspect]

I would just shoot her a message now.

DM her business account since you already follow it. Just reach out and comment on something you guys talked about already, perhaps mention or ask something about her business, or how her semester in school went.

Gauge her interest by how she responds (Is she happy to hear from you or is her tone light, to the point, and professional, etc.), and go from there.

 

[bcude]

So I approached her and had a good convo for 30 minutes. She kept talking, the vibe was good and I ended the convo, she didn't want to stop talking though. Talked about regluar stuff, like work and her school and she has a business and told her I own one too, dudududu.

My first thought from reading all this is that she's looking for a new orbiter/emotional tampon.

Didn't want to appear to hungry so I asked for her business instagram and I follow it, she did not follow me back though!

This is not very masculine/attractive. Going for what you want in a bold and unapologetic way is. Do you want to get to know her or not? Then skip this IG BS. You're doing yourself a disfavour and going in the wrong direction.

Any thoughts?

Ask her out and (re-)read the DJ bible.

 

[Romanemp22]

Message her, you got nothing to lose basically. Send her something fun that can string a good convo and go from there.

Waiting 6 weeks do make a move in person is just too long period of time.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Ask her out now through Instagram. Don’t ask for her number (you already goofed on that), just ask her out directly there. In the future, when a woman sends IOIs, get the number ASAP. You look weak if you don’t. Her pvssy is probably dry already.

 

[RickTheToad]

Hey fellas,

Getting some strong IoI's from a girl that works at the gym, she's attractive.
So she always smiles at me and we had some short convo's and I go on to my training.

So my body is changing, going forward due my training schedule and diet. I went training last week and she was winking and smiling at me. Didn't think much of it, just flirted back and moved on. While doing some bench presses she starts to wink again and smile at me a couple of times. So I approached her and had a good convo for 30 minutes. She kept talking, the vibe was good and I ended the convo, she didn't want to stop talking though. Talked about regluar stuff, like work and her school and she has a business and told her I own one too, dudududu. Didn't want to appear to hungry so I asked for her business instagram and I follow it, she did not follow me back though!

Ok so the gyms are closed now by our government so I can't see her anymore there for the next 6 weeks due quaraintaine. I wanted to game her more if I ran into her.

So guess what. My best friend's girlfriend is her best friend for 15 years! So I guess she knows, also my friend told me that I talked to her drunk in the club 1.5 years ago somewhere but we only talked a minute and nothing happened more.

I dont know if she knows that it's me and that im that guy, and that she knows that her friends boyfriend is my buddy. I guess she does but she is attracted otherwise she wouldn't flirt with me.

So i was thinking, should i follow her private instagram account and dm her or just wait out the quarainte and talk to her live in the gym? I can also use my buddy to set something up but that's a bit lame, my gut feeling says.

Oh by the way my friend says that she is kind of getting serious with a guy right now! but he also said that he saw her with 3 different guys in 3 years he knows her.

Any thoughts?

DMing or following her IG is beta and orbiting. Orbiting is basically following, and you do not want to do that. If you were already chatting with her, that's one thing. However, if there's no dialog, you SOOL.

 

[TheGambino]

follows on ig she followed straight back

 

[retardedautist2020]

You should've asked her out right away the first time you talked to her?

 

[Serenity]

So i was thinking, should i follow her private instagram account and dm her or just wait out the quarainte and talk to her live in the gym? I can also use my buddy to set something up but that's a bit lame, my gut feeling says.

The fact that you're this hesitant about doing it this or that way tells me you have too few options and place too much importance on succeeding.

If you didn't fear failure you would have been bold enough to just go ahead. Your attempt at big brain game isn't going to pay off, you're wasting time. If she's interested she'll go along with what you want right away, if you wait the window of that opportunity will close.

Always strike while the iron is hot.

 

[2Rocky]

follows on ig she followed straight back

Start a convo about whether the gym is doing any "outdoor groups". Follow up with "How are you dealing with all the Health orders?" if she has a BF she will mention him. Ask her out.

 

[Ant92]

Hey fellas,

Getting some strong IoI's from a girl that works at the gym, she's attractive.
So she always smiles at me and we had some short convo's and I go on to my training.

So my body is changing, going forward due my training schedule and diet. I went training last week and she was winking and smiling at me. Didn't think much of it, just flirted back and moved on. While doing some bench presses she starts to wink again and smile at me a couple of times. So I approached her and had a good convo for 30 minutes. She kept talking, the vibe was good and I ended the convo, she didn't want to stop talking though. Talked about regluar stuff, like work and her school and she has a business and told her I own one too, dudududu. Didn't want to appear to hungry so I asked for her business instagram and I follow it, she did not follow me back though!

Ok so the gyms are closed now by our government so I can't see her anymore there for the next 6 weeks due quaraintaine. I wanted to game her more if I ran into her.

So guess what. My best friend's girlfriend is her best friend for 15 years! So I guess she knows, also my friend told me that I talked to her drunk in the club 1.5 years ago somewhere but we only talked a minute and nothing happened more.

I dont know if she knows that it's me and that im that guy, and that she knows that her friends boyfriend is my buddy. I guess she does but she is attracted otherwise she wouldn't flirt with me.

So i was thinking, should i follow her private instagram account and dm her or just wait out the quarainte and talk to her live in the gym? I can also use my buddy to set something up but that's a bit lame, my gut feeling says.

Oh by the way my friend says that she is kind of getting serious with a guy right now! but he also said that he saw her with 3 different guys in 3 years he knows her.

Any thoughts?

Ask her to hang out !

Sounds like another guy might already have a head start on you , so don’t take anything personal . Just be cool! Who knows what can happen down the road.
It’s interesting how caught up in our heads we can get? Don’t sweat nothing pimp!

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Never ask, always tell, and guage interest based on compliance. #next @anything not 110% compliance. The funnel you cycle through is compliance and you drunk dial fence sitters at 2am. In part to troll and get D sucked. Back in my day interest was shown meant Dtf. Today its attention *****s on STERIODS. Girls who are porn star kill count and can't ****. Bad sex. Smelly vagina and entitled to the max. Bait. She is either compliant or next.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Don't be afraid to be hungry, you need that, don't be needy tho

 

[NSX-R]

Normal behavior not to follow you back from her business acc .I would follow her private instagram profile and see if she follows back . If not them you get your answer . If she does follow dm her or respond to one of her stories and pick it up from there and talk for a bit . During quarantine since in my area i couldn’t go out somewhere for a date, i would after some convo and after i established some rapport, i start being sexual and more aggressive until i managed to make her invite me at her home or the opposite depending the flow of the convo .

Other than that , you have to have in mind that she’s friendly because she don’t want her business to be seen as bad but as you well know , always assume attraction. Also never wait for too long , strike while the iron is hot .

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

I would just shoot her a message now.

DM her business account since you already follow it. Just reach out and comment on something you guys talked about already, perhaps mention or ask something about her business, or how her semester in school went.

Gauge her interest by how she responds (Is she happy to hear from you or is her tone light, to the point, and professional, etc.), and go from there.

Not bad advice. However, if it were up to me. I would do some more reconnaissance. Ask your best friend's GF for some information or have him ask her. I would not message her on her business account. I would wait until gyms are open again and resume the playful flirtations taking it from there patiently...

Sounds like you're a little impatient to me. I would ramp up my efforts to game other women by any means necessary so that you don't ruin this one with overly aggressive initial moves.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

So i was thinking, should i follow her private instagram account and dm her or just wait out the quarainte and talk to her live in the gym? I can also use my buddy to set something up but that's a bit lame, my gut feeling says.

No you talk to her at the gym or when you meet her again. Why freaking hide behind computers and other devices like a simp beta stalker?
Get her number or something.. If she rejects you there then you know, and if not then good sheit.

My best friend's girlfriend is her best friend for 15 years!

If I´d were you then I would be smart to be sneaky enough to "abuse and use" that connection. Get you boi's gf to set something up where you are invited to, (like whatever kind of event; party/dinner/meet a local café etc) and then you meet by "accidence" there.

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

No you talk to her at the gym or when you meet her again. Why freaking hide behind computers and other devices like a simp beta stalker?
Get her number or something.. If she rejects you there then you know, and if not then good sheit.



If I´d were you then I would be smart enough to be sneaky enough to "abuse and use" that connection. Get you boi's gf to set something up where you are invited to, (like whatever, kind event party/dinner/meet a local café etc) and then you meet by "accidence" there.

YES to the 2nd part especially

 

[TheGambino]

Faouck it, I’m talking to her on ig already, she replies. I’ll let you guys know if i got a succesfull date. If she doesn’t want to meet I’ll put her on the backburner and see what happens if I run into her at the gym again what could be in months since the new lockdown rules here...

 

[Redwolf]

I would just shoot her a message now.

DM her business account since you already follow it. Just reach out and comment on something you guys talked about already, perhaps mention or ask something about her business, or how her semester in school went.

Gauge her interest by how she responds (Is she happy to hear from you or is her tone light, to the point, and professional, etc.), and go from there.

I agree with the above comments. I will add for you to offer a meet up for drinks at a specific day, time and place. How she responds will tell you her interest level. Even if she shoots you down, you made the effort and put the ball in her court.

If she's interested she will meet you or offer an alternative to seeing her.

 

[Atom Smasher]

“Do you have something in your eye?”

I personally hate winks from females, and I’ve gotten plenty of them in my day. They come off as annoyingly aggressive and masculine.