"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Need some advice DJ's

nmartinez12443

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On Wednesday I played wingman with my buddy Pete at a bar. My friend was really into this girl and he calls her 24/7 and texts her all the time, he was really really wanted this girl. So we met this HB7 at the bar and within 20 seconds I could see that she just wasn't interested in my buddy. I kept trying to help him out but it just wasn't happening for Pete at all. So me and that girl went to go get drinks and she tells me flat out she isn't in to my buddy at all. So were talking and flirting basically and it was obvious that we liked each other and even my buddy Pete thought that something was going to go down.
So me and that girl go and get drinks again and I get the girls number. So me and my buddy leave around 1 and all the way home he says, "did you get that girls number?", "You should go after that girl, I can tell she doesn't want me", "you two seem like you had something going on and I am not going to stand in the way of that", "you guys you should get together". Anyways I denied everything and then I called that chick and we fooled around that same night, no sex (I didn't have a condom).

My question: IF my friend gave me the go ahead 5 times, was I in the wrong in this situation and should I feel bad?
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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nmartinez12443

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Just to note, when my buddy was giving me the go ahead he seemed sincere, but he also said it as a way to find out if something DID go down. Now all he does is text 24/7 asking me what happened, I keep denying it and this is what I said.

Me: Nothing went down and even if it did you gave me the green light a bunch of times.

Him: I still care about her and I haven't gave up on her. (he still texts her 20 times a day and she told me she won't reply to him)
 

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Why would you be in the wrong situation? Your boy fvcked up with his game, and the chick was diggin you my friend.

Your just going to have to be blatently honest with your boy and tell him the girl said shes NOT into him at all and is actually INTO you.

Either that or just keep it on the MAJOR DL haha.
 

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well, i would remind you one saying: "bros before hos". if you think you would like to go into an exclusive relationship with this girl, then you did the right thing. but if it is just for your ego and for your enjoyment, i don't support you. girls are dime a dozen and when i understand that my buddy likes that girl, it is his problem that his game is weak and you being a friend should help him out, at least try to, not compete with him. if i had been in your situation, i would not have gone for the girl.

just a similar example, i went to hang out with my cousin's (a guy) friends. now there we came across a girl who was my cousin's friend but they fell out with each other, not talking to each other, sort of like that. and i was surprised when she started coming for me, complimenting me and such, you know. and what i did, i didn't even looked at her and ignored her completely, and man, she was a hot mama! but just i was holding on to my respect for my cousin, if i had gone for the girl, then it is just humiliation for my cousin. that's it. hope you get my point.
 

nmartinez12443

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Thing is I agree with the Bros before hoes thing. I don't want a long term relationship with this chick, but when you have some chick throwing herself at you and then your buddy s telling you to go for it, it just seems as though he was giving me the go ahead.

If I didn't get the go ahead I probably would have been like f- it, but it he made is seem like he wasn't interested anymore.
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Vypros

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You have to ask yourself what is more important:

How your friend feels
Or fvcking some slut

What's your priority? Once you figure that out you can make a decision.
 

Warrior74

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Take it to the grave man. In my opinion your buddy knows whats up. his gut his telling him, so now he's looking at you and wondering what kind of friend you really are.

My best friend's fiance slept with all of his buds but me. (I turned her down). Me and her always got on really well and always had fun, but I knew she was a crazy bytch... He asked me for a couple of months if I hit it. His trust had been shattered by his best man and every single one of his friends sleeping with her...I think the only reason we are still cool is because I put bros before hoes and took care of my boy. She went on to **** several other doods and is trying to figure out who her baby daddy is. It really wasn't worth it.
 
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