Need serious help, about to turn 40 and never had a gf or sex

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Paradox

Master Don Juan

May 29, 2009

KSUgamer said:
Listen to these guys, work out and eat healthy. No more feeling sorry for yourself either. I think you can get most of the way in about half a year. First thing you need to do is work on finding a job. 40 with no job? I don't care what kinda job it is...but you need to find something that makes you feel like you have a purpose in life. EAT HEALTHY, this will improve your looks dramatically...go on the fitness forum and read everything there is about nutrition and exercise.

Seriously man, the only way you'll get anywhere is if you work hard. That's the only way and I think you've got enough motivation to do it.

This pretty much sums it up and ends this thread.

Closed.

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.