In2theGame
Master Don Juan
Needing advice from the SS community as I think it may be more beneficial than asking my friends as they may be biased towards me continuing to go out with them and partying etc. so anyway...
For a long while Ive been single and freely seeing multiple women at once. I don't have a problem picking up beautiful women at all and get compliments on how hot or gorgeous they think I am and was having a good time until one night I met this HB 9 Blonde that turns heads everywhere and anywhere. We met at the end of April and spoke every day as she would call or text me every day and i was fine with that as I liked her a lot. She started coming to visit me at my house which is a 1 and a half hour drive but she would make the trip for me.
She gives me massages, Cooked for me, brought over wine, lets me do whatever i want in bed to her (she loves the way i pound her out) and I'm not trying to boast but lets just say I'm very well "packaged", She lets me drive her new BMW. Sounds fantastic and great, So at the end of July we had a talk about being together and she said she likes me so much and that she wants to get to know me more and see where it goes because she still had a guard up from her last BF that left her upset and that relationship ended a year and a half ago but that she is not seeing or talking to anyone else. that's fine and i understood. However, everyday she texts me hearts and kisses and I "miss you baby" She still initiates contact every day and says that she cant wait to see me again. Shes filled with excitement when we are going to see each other so it seems all great.
Moving forward though, Sometimes it throws me off as she can be all "baby this" and "baby that" but then after a while she texts me like I'm just a friend. I'm not sure how to explain it but its as if she acts like we are a couple sometimes and other times we're just casually seeing each other. Also, she's constantly sending me pictures of her dressed up and i wonder at times when shes goes out, if shes trying to attract other guys or seeking massive attention and that leaves me feeling like completely backing off. Am i over reacting to this and over thinking? or am i just protecting myself because i don't want to fall in too deep then feel like Sh*t later on.
Today for example, We got into a small argument. She called me this morning but i was busy doing something and called her back later in the day. She didnt pick up so i thought okay cool ill text her something in a little while but then she texts me saying "Hey whats up, I called you before. My guy friends came over to watch NFL because i have the NFL package". Ok now,... I already have trust and anxiety issues when it comes to things like this because of how traumatic my last 5 year relationship ended and when i saw this.. it really makes me not what to give a F*ck anymore and go back to being a full blown bachelor because in my opinion, I just cant fathom how a very good looking girl can have male friends that don't want to get with her. Even if she knew them for a very long time... I think its naive to think otherwise. I called her out on it and i sent a text saying "How come you didnt pick up for me?" as it bothers me that because she's with her guy friends.. she cant step away for a few min to talk to someone she supposedly likes a lot and misses? or am i over thinking it?
Five minutes later she calls me and I let her know what the deal was and how it bothered me that she cant step away for min for me and if I had a girl i was really into and she was calling me.. i would step away for a minute to answer or call and explain i was with friends. We got into it and she starts with that BS attitude saying "whatever, take it how you want to take it but i was just letting you know i was with my friends" I said that it feels disrespectful and to stop that F*cking attitude with me, she responds "i could understand if you were my husband or my boss" and i stood quiet and that side of me wanted to come out where I wanted to just cut the girl off but we have had a great time together and didnt want to over react.
Another thing that kind of bothers me also is she seems secretive about me but she claims she doesnt like people in her business. When her cousin comes around she seems like she doesnt want to talk on the phone and texts me instead or when friends are around she rather text me. She claims that she doesnt want everyone asking her questions about me or want her brother or dad to know shes seeing someone because then they will want to know who i am. I can believe that but to a certain extent, However her best friend does know about me and we have all hung out before but overall... I dont know what to make of that.
She's a very active person and her job is demanding as shes in medical and makes good money so im happy about that, especially as of late because of my business capital taking a big hit from being an idiot and not managing my capital correctly. Anyway... Overall I would very much appreciate advice from you guys on here because there are some posters that have great advice and i could use it. I am open to having a relationship again and wouldnt mind having one but not at the cost of potential misery and going out and picking up girl after girl gets boring after a while.
So what do you guys think about this? Should i chill out and continue or back off? Again she states she wants to treat me like a king but sometimes its as if she pulls back so im confused. thanks in advance.
For a long while Ive been single and freely seeing multiple women at once. I don't have a problem picking up beautiful women at all and get compliments on how hot or gorgeous they think I am and was having a good time until one night I met this HB 9 Blonde that turns heads everywhere and anywhere. We met at the end of April and spoke every day as she would call or text me every day and i was fine with that as I liked her a lot. She started coming to visit me at my house which is a 1 and a half hour drive but she would make the trip for me.
She gives me massages, Cooked for me, brought over wine, lets me do whatever i want in bed to her (she loves the way i pound her out) and I'm not trying to boast but lets just say I'm very well "packaged", She lets me drive her new BMW. Sounds fantastic and great, So at the end of July we had a talk about being together and she said she likes me so much and that she wants to get to know me more and see where it goes because she still had a guard up from her last BF that left her upset and that relationship ended a year and a half ago but that she is not seeing or talking to anyone else. that's fine and i understood. However, everyday she texts me hearts and kisses and I "miss you baby" She still initiates contact every day and says that she cant wait to see me again. Shes filled with excitement when we are going to see each other so it seems all great.
Moving forward though, Sometimes it throws me off as she can be all "baby this" and "baby that" but then after a while she texts me like I'm just a friend. I'm not sure how to explain it but its as if she acts like we are a couple sometimes and other times we're just casually seeing each other. Also, she's constantly sending me pictures of her dressed up and i wonder at times when shes goes out, if shes trying to attract other guys or seeking massive attention and that leaves me feeling like completely backing off. Am i over reacting to this and over thinking? or am i just protecting myself because i don't want to fall in too deep then feel like Sh*t later on.
Today for example, We got into a small argument. She called me this morning but i was busy doing something and called her back later in the day. She didnt pick up so i thought okay cool ill text her something in a little while but then she texts me saying "Hey whats up, I called you before. My guy friends came over to watch NFL because i have the NFL package". Ok now,... I already have trust and anxiety issues when it comes to things like this because of how traumatic my last 5 year relationship ended and when i saw this.. it really makes me not what to give a F*ck anymore and go back to being a full blown bachelor because in my opinion, I just cant fathom how a very good looking girl can have male friends that don't want to get with her. Even if she knew them for a very long time... I think its naive to think otherwise. I called her out on it and i sent a text saying "How come you didnt pick up for me?" as it bothers me that because she's with her guy friends.. she cant step away for a few min to talk to someone she supposedly likes a lot and misses? or am i over thinking it?
Five minutes later she calls me and I let her know what the deal was and how it bothered me that she cant step away for min for me and if I had a girl i was really into and she was calling me.. i would step away for a minute to answer or call and explain i was with friends. We got into it and she starts with that BS attitude saying "whatever, take it how you want to take it but i was just letting you know i was with my friends" I said that it feels disrespectful and to stop that F*cking attitude with me, she responds "i could understand if you were my husband or my boss" and i stood quiet and that side of me wanted to come out where I wanted to just cut the girl off but we have had a great time together and didnt want to over react.
Another thing that kind of bothers me also is she seems secretive about me but she claims she doesnt like people in her business. When her cousin comes around she seems like she doesnt want to talk on the phone and texts me instead or when friends are around she rather text me. She claims that she doesnt want everyone asking her questions about me or want her brother or dad to know shes seeing someone because then they will want to know who i am. I can believe that but to a certain extent, However her best friend does know about me and we have all hung out before but overall... I dont know what to make of that.
She's a very active person and her job is demanding as shes in medical and makes good money so im happy about that, especially as of late because of my business capital taking a big hit from being an idiot and not managing my capital correctly. Anyway... Overall I would very much appreciate advice from you guys on here because there are some posters that have great advice and i could use it. I am open to having a relationship again and wouldnt mind having one but not at the cost of potential misery and going out and picking up girl after girl gets boring after a while.
So what do you guys think about this? Should i chill out and continue or back off? Again she states she wants to treat me like a king but sometimes its as if she pulls back so im confused. thanks in advance.