"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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NEED quick answer: LTR Girlfriend is bugging me about Spring Break.

omgwtfm8

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I just got a new job and am moving in a week or two. I am actually moving to a brand new city, her city. I will be an hour closer than I used to be. We had originally had plans to go to Prauge but i just landed a new job and obviously can't take off now.

She's bugging me today because she can't make a decision for her Spring Break plans (sb is a couple days after i make the move). Her friend asked her to go to Florida house with her friend, friends older brother and his friend.

Who's going to turn down a Spring Break trip to hang out in her hometown?

I acted like i don't care and she should do whatever she wants to do, just to make sure she has fun.

But now she's making a big deal about it. She is telling me thinkgs like 'IDK why i think this is a big deal. I dont want to leave you' 'I feel quilty going without you'

It was going to be with the family at first and I thought it would be fun. But now the family is not going. It's just the the one girl and 2 dudes.

What should the DJ do? I told her to make the decision and that she'll have fun either way. She keeps asking me now
 

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eaglez1177

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Just reassure her and tell her everything will be fine and everything is going to be normal and perfect when she comes back home. Girls always get worried that things will change if they're gone from someone for an extended period of time.
 

omgwtfm8

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I have some fear. Now I don't know why, that maybe she would cheat on me. Just because she can. It's Spring Break, in Florida. Her friend and her used to be very promiscuous in college (but who wasn't?). This is her first Spring Break ever too.
 

Drewskie

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omgwtfm8 said:
I have some fear. Now I don't know why, that maybe she would cheat on me. Just because she can. It's Spring Break, in Florida. Her friend and her used to be very promiscuous in college (but who wasn't?). This is her first Spring Break ever too.
:yes: She's gonna hook up, I can guarantee it.
 

horaholic

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What do people do on spring break? They get blackout wasted, and wake up with strangers. Thats the whole point. Its a big party, and partying and sex go hand in hand.

You're caught in a position here. If you show that you're not comfortable with her going, you're an insecure AFC. If you act like its ok, you're a naive, doormat AFC. You lose either way. You might as well at least be honest. Tell her what you think, and you have serious doubts about a chick who will choose a party over her BF.

I've learned the hard way, that you need to make your opinion known in situations like this. Yeah, you might come off as jealous, controlling, and insecure, but at least you're not giving your girl permission to put other penis's inside her.

Good luck. Maybe she'll pass your test.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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