"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Quick rundown:

Met this girl at a friend's dinner. Immediately getting the vibes.
Set up a date to go to a salsa dancing class. Went a few days later. Had an awesome time! had a few drinks afterwards then went for a nice walk. drove her home then she invited me in.

went inside till 230 just talking and ended the nite there. it was late ( we were both students and had class in the morning ). not sure how far she wanted to go tonight. But thought i should be a gentleman and escalate another time.

Tonight. booked off work because i thought she was going to be at a particular club tonight. I thought i should go there with a few girl friends mine to check out the club with me b/c whether or not she was there, i would have had a great time with these two.

She wasnt' there. It's ok. But I wished she was there. I'm very attracted. 1am, I get a voicemail from her, inviting me to go out with her next week at the same club.

I'm a little annoyed that I may have to cancel another shift next week to try to see her. But I like her.

So it's 230 right now and i just got home. I feel like calling her but don't know if it's too late and she must be sleeping or just do it and wake her up and chit chat. Maybe it can wait.

Now or later?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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First off, if she was giving you the signs when you where back at her place then you should have kissed her hopefully leading to ****ing her, by not doing so, you put yourself in the friendzone. Girls don't like it when a man doesn't man up and try. Stop trying to be a good guy - ****ing has nothing to do with goodness. If she wasn't giving you signs then your already in the friendzone however I can't see that as being the case as she invited you in.

As for going to the club. Be honest the first time you went was to meet her that's why your anoyed at taking one day off work (you can go out with your mates anytime), if she didn't show why repeat the mistake.

Either way - it's the wrong thing to do. You should be asking this girl out one-on-one, instead of trying to hang around her hoping she makes the moves or you get enough dutch courage to do.
 
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