"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Quick rundown:

Met this girl at a friend's dinner. Immediately getting the vibes.
Set up a date to go to a salsa dancing class. Went a few days later. Had an awesome time! had a few drinks afterwards then went for a nice walk. drove her home then she invited me in.

went inside till 230 just talking and ended the nite there. it was late ( we were both students and had class in the morning ). not sure how far she wanted to go tonight. But thought i should be a gentleman and escalate another time.

Tonight. booked off work because i thought she was going to be at a particular club tonight. I thought i should go there with a few girl friends mine to check out the club with me b/c whether or not she was there, i would have had a great time with these two.

She wasnt' there. It's ok. But I wished she was there. I'm very attracted. 1am, I get a voicemail from her, inviting me to go out with her next week at the same club.

I'm a little annoyed that I may have to cancel another shift next week to try to see her. But I like her.

So it's 230 right now and i just got home. I feel like calling her but don't know if it's too late and she must be sleeping or just do it and wake her up and chit chat. Maybe it can wait.

Now or later?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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First off, if she was giving you the signs when you where back at her place then you should have kissed her hopefully leading to ****ing her, by not doing so, you put yourself in the friendzone. Girls don't like it when a man doesn't man up and try. Stop trying to be a good guy - ****ing has nothing to do with goodness. If she wasn't giving you signs then your already in the friendzone however I can't see that as being the case as she invited you in.

As for going to the club. Be honest the first time you went was to meet her that's why your anoyed at taking one day off work (you can go out with your mates anytime), if she didn't show why repeat the mistake.

Either way - it's the wrong thing to do. You should be asking this girl out one-on-one, instead of trying to hang around her hoping she makes the moves or you get enough dutch courage to do.
 
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