"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Jango_Xavier

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Everyday I say to myself "dude, get off ur ass & lose ur gut", but i never seem 2 do anything cos ive got no motivation. Being over weight 4 me really ruins my game cos im in the field now & not much of a KJ anymore & when i DJ i reject myself cos i think "chicks dont like overweight guys". Im actually quite sick of being over weight but have no motivation or discipline, so could any of u guys got any good advice 2 get me started?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Here's some motivation for you

Don Juan Discussion Forum - What Can I Do?
Body Recomposition - Lyle McDonald - Motivation
http://www.johnstonefitness.com/
Merry Christmas, Bob

And also something I learned from Anthony Robbins' Get the Edge (paraphrased by me, and also can be applied to pretty much anything)

The way lots of people make huge transformations is that they hit rock bottom - they get so totally digusted and fed up with the way they are living their lives that they make a huge change. You don't necessarily have to wait until you hit 400 lbs. to make that transformation. It is good to be real with yourself, but it is another thing to try to talk yourself into thinking that things are "OK" the way they are. I'm sure everyone has at some point in their lives told themselves, "Hey, it's not THAT bad" or when a huge overweight man waddles by: "Hey, at least I don't look like him."

You aren't going to change anything by thinking this way, you must get disturbed in order to transform into the person you really want to be.
 

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Merry Christmas Bob totally kicks ass!
 

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You've read all the motivating articles, now what do you do to get those abs...

Here's some advice:

Take it slow. Get a program and start weight training 3 times a week with each session last no more than 45 mins, no more. Also try HIIT for the days you're not weight training, http://www.musclemedia.com/training/hiit.asp. HIIT is a great fat burner and only takes a maximum of 20 minutes a day. Just remember to eat a high carb meal about an 60-90 minutes afterwards. Cut out all the crap you are eating. No more sodas, no more potato chips, no more gut-expanding fried foods.

If you do the above then you are well on your way to a healthier and leaner Jango!

If you stick at it then your fat will start melting away and you'll also build some valuable muscle.

ps. drink more water.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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