"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Jango_Xavier

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Everyday I say to myself "dude, get off ur ass & lose ur gut", but i never seem 2 do anything cos ive got no motivation. Being over weight 4 me really ruins my game cos im in the field now & not much of a KJ anymore & when i DJ i reject myself cos i think "chicks dont like overweight guys". Im actually quite sick of being over weight but have no motivation or discipline, so could any of u guys got any good advice 2 get me started?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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jive

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Here's some motivation for you

Don Juan Discussion Forum - What Can I Do?
Body Recomposition - Lyle McDonald - Motivation
http://www.johnstonefitness.com/
Merry Christmas, Bob

And also something I learned from Anthony Robbins' Get the Edge (paraphrased by me, and also can be applied to pretty much anything)

The way lots of people make huge transformations is that they hit rock bottom - they get so totally digusted and fed up with the way they are living their lives that they make a huge change. You don't necessarily have to wait until you hit 400 lbs. to make that transformation. It is good to be real with yourself, but it is another thing to try to talk yourself into thinking that things are "OK" the way they are. I'm sure everyone has at some point in their lives told themselves, "Hey, it's not THAT bad" or when a huge overweight man waddles by: "Hey, at least I don't look like him."

You aren't going to change anything by thinking this way, you must get disturbed in order to transform into the person you really want to be.
 

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Merry Christmas Bob totally kicks ass!
 

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You've read all the motivating articles, now what do you do to get those abs...

Here's some advice:

Take it slow. Get a program and start weight training 3 times a week with each session last no more than 45 mins, no more. Also try HIIT for the days you're not weight training, http://www.musclemedia.com/training/hiit.asp. HIIT is a great fat burner and only takes a maximum of 20 minutes a day. Just remember to eat a high carb meal about an 60-90 minutes afterwards. Cut out all the crap you are eating. No more sodas, no more potato chips, no more gut-expanding fried foods.

If you do the above then you are well on your way to a healthier and leaner Jango!

If you stick at it then your fat will start melting away and you'll also build some valuable muscle.

ps. drink more water.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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