"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm 16,sophormore;this is my first year studying aboard in a small private highschool in U.S.
I have long side burns, somewhat long hair, and i tend to wear clothes in all black plus a leather shoes/boots. i'm around 5.11-6 ft.

So heres my problem: I'm having a hard time to create my own social circle.
And literally people are not really passionate to me.


I managed to game some girl but my lack of social circle is really hindering my game. I asked some of my close friends or girls, they said, I look intimidating or hard to appraoch and people at this school are just retarded.
I always engage conversation and trying to be outgoing, with cool and strong body language. I always strike up conversation with other people and they just politely replied with short answers. Its really hard to recivce a decent answers from them. Or they are not even interested in me.

I just need someone to tell me wtf was wrong with me, i used to be the cool and popular kids in middle school. Ty for reading this long post.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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As within, so without. What you have inside you will manifest into your life.

Ego will always draw other egos, joy will always bring more joy.

Have patience, change takes time.
 

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You need to change up your style. The reason people say your hard to approach is cause of all the black you wear. Try wearing more colorful clothes even if they are darker shades of primary colors. Also I would suggest cutting your hair and shaving the facial hair and get a nice pair of shoes(ditch the boots) your overall style just needs to look fun. The style you have now displays you as uptight loner.
 

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aww man, thanks. finally, someone coulda point me out. People at school are just too intimidated to talk to me and tell me the truth.
appreciated
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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apocolipto

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Lol! Bro, the style advice was just common sense! Good advice though AH909, but seriously, you should have figured that out on your own.

Wouldn't you say someone in all black clothing looks insecure and emo?

Also, you must build up some confidence. Don't give a fvck what people think of you and do what you want. Talk to more people also. Not just girls.
 

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yeah, i just tried to strike a convo with whoever the faq i see but just couldnt recieve a good response. well i'm just fine with ppl in all black proabaly it has something to do with my past, but ty for the tips anyway.
will figure out some other fashion.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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