Need legitimate help

[captain55]

The below information is going to be perfectly honest about myself, some of it is embaressing, but I am going to keep it legit.

About me...I am in my early twenties, attractive, and well built. (anyone can pm me for pictures Im not some troll)

Aside from my looks and body, I have nothing going for me in my life. I moved to a new town a couple of years ago, I have wingmans..and buddies I hit the club with but very few actual friends. I'm extremely lonely and have been for a very long time. I have maybe 10 friends on facebook in this entire state, I dont add anyone. I'm a legit loner.


I get laid alot. I have a one night stand almost every week. I've had mini relationships, but never have I had a serious relationship though. I treat women like ****, because I hate my own life... and they like me for about three weeks until the realize how ****ed up I really am.

I'm an insecure guy with a huge ego..if that makes any sense???

little story...About three weeks ago I had a one night stand with a very attractive girl. But I still thought I could do better. She told me straight up that night, that she would be my girl if i wanted her to. Even offered to be friends with benefits.

I couldn't answer her.

Flash forward two weeks and she has already been with some other guy. And is in a relationship. And I have developed massive feelings for her, ever since she became unavailable.

I find myself extremely jealous of her and the women I date in general, jealous of the fact that there happy..that they live full lives. I hide it well, nobody knows but you guys. These women don't know that undearneath the handsome face and body I'm a complete ****ing loser.

I'm depressed, I hate my life. I always tell myself that no woman would want to be with me if she knew the real guy that I was, but some dumb ***** with huge breast and a low IQ always comes along. A mini relationship starts, I might even be happy for a week or two. And the mini relationship ends...and here I am.

 

[El Payaso]

Have you tried seeing a shrink?

 

[captain55]

Have you tried seeing a shrink?

spent thousands on them

 

[YAboi]

the problem is simply in how you see yourself. You see yourself as having to reach a certain plce before being deemed worthy or good enough for a relationship but the joke's on you bro. You're already good enough as you are , you just don't know it.....You're good enough even when you're being a horrible human. You don't need to impress the chicks. That's where your major fault is. Trying to live up to some fantasy when really most chicks hsve lives as empty and lonely as yours. Allow a chick in to fill some space and fill the remaining space with stuff that makes you happy and most importantly accept who you are currently.

 

[jafyk]

Here I was thinking that getting laid every week would make a lot of you guys happy? For the most part people here fronts like they don't need a woman in their lives and that they are beyond feeling.

With that said. Like they say acceptance that you need help is the first step to recovery. So, I commend you on recognizing this. In order to proceed you would need to be really honest with yourself. I find that the biggest problem people have is self deceit. So, let's proceed.

1) Are you lonely or are you just someone who isn't more of the pack type of people? I've always found that I prefer to be alone most of the time. My relationship with others tend to be one on one. I do have friends, families and acquaintances I see from time to time. I don't mind getting together in a group with friends a couple times and I usually do genuinely enjoy the time together. However, I get uncomfortable with being around a group of people for a very lengthy amount of time. To be honest I enjoy the one on one more. Sure, there are times when on my own I may feel lonely and that is if I'm not busy. So, I ask again are you just lonely in need of people's company or you aren't a pack type of person?

2) Why do you think your life is the way it is now? Where you lacking in love growing up?

3) Are you afraid of being in a relationship in itself or does it because you feel you have nothing to offer?

From what you've written above. I am going to conclude that (1) You are a selfish person who doesn't genuinely care about people (2) You also hate yourself and reject yourself (low self esteem or depression could be at play here). If you aren't self motivated it will be very tough to change your situation.

Here's what I am going to recommend. I don't know if you are financially in a position to travel and have new experiences. Anyway, more on that later. I think you need to do the following.
(1) Volunteer: Find a place to volunteer where you can help people who have nothing to offer you in return. The point of this is to start caring and giving a damn about others.

(2) Join a group: that can allow you to have new experiences. This will also allow you to meet up with people. Try to form a relationship with a few of the people in that group and be real about it. Trying to listen and genuinely get to know these people. Offer to help them out as you can. Try to see them outside of that group setting. The point of this is not for you to meet up with some chick you can fvck. You already have your club for that.

(3) Travel: Go visit a new destination. This lets you meet people from a different place and to have a few new experiences.

(4) Find a hobby you are passionate about or start a project: If possible involve other people in it.

(5) Be kind to yourself: Sleep well, eat right, exercise, spoil yourself every now and then. Why? Because no one else can love your like you do. If you don't love yourself why should someone else?

(6) Accept yourself: realize you are a work in progress. Own your strengths, work on your weaknesses. When you fail...

(7) Forgive Yourself: because you are not perfect and because life is war until your very final breath.

(8) Find happiness in the little things: Appreciate the little things in your life, eventually when the big things come you can celebrate them as well.

(9) Learn about the world around you: from social to pyschology, to pop culture, to business, culture. It opens up your mind and heart.

So, why have I asked you to do these 8 things? The things that involve other people are to help you to give. When you give and make a difference in the loves of others you are happy. When you value to offer, people will seek you out and will show their appreciation. Open up yourself to a few select people in order to gain trust you have to give trust. All these activities should help spur a positive atmosphere in your life.
You already know how to meet girls. By meeting people through all the above process you will be more likely to meet someone who genuinely cares about you and whom you can care for. Your happiness isn't dependent on them and theirs isn't dependent you. Remember for this to work you have to be honest with yourself. If you need an accountability partner you can PM me and we talk about the progress you are making. When things get better for you. Do come back here and share your story. I'd also recommend reading the Book of Pook from the Dj bible on this site. It goes beyond trying to hook up with girls. I feel like when guys are used to using girls eventually they become callous and can't see any other values in women. Women just become like alcohol. How much many you can fvck, what types, scenario and in the end you feel empty and not know how to form relationships. Go get started. I believe in you but you need to believe in yourself more.