"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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rust&bone

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Hi all,

So this is about a girl I went into NC for a little over 3 months after telling her whats on my mind.

What I observed in these 3 months was she was mirroring my whatsapp profile picture.We never blocked each other.She was mirroring me even when I met her for the first time like sipping water at the same time.I always knew she liked me.So she is doing stuff like, if I was sitting down on the floor in my profile snap, she would post a similar snap of hers and if I was holding a glass in my snap she would have something similar in her hands.

I realised she was getting deperate. A friend of mine suggested... ping her, she is a girl, she will never take the initiative and it will be your loss at the end of the day and so I did ping her finally even though I had doubts in my mind as I have read a lot of stuff on this forum.

She did reply me back and we had a small conversation and she was very interested in knowing what I was doing and whether I was still pursuing my dreams or not.I said I was doing all that.I wanted to keep the conversation short, so I finally said,"Ping you back. I am shopping."

She didn't reply to that.-->Strike one
So pinged her back in the night,"U there".no response.-->Strike 2
After half an hour or so knowing that she had checked her whatsapp message, I pinged her again and she didn't respond.-->Strike 3

I stopped completely and haven't pinged her again and don't intend to as I realise this is major disrespect.

I realised couple of things.....
1. This is power game.
2. She thinks she got me back and has the upper hand.
3. This is a **** test. wants to see if I will lose my sanity.

My first reaction was, this girl is being silly.
I realise respect is a two way street.

I have no problem going completely ghost.Thanks to this forum I have my balls in my hands.I was an AFC and I am just learning the ropes.

Some pointers as to what's going on here would be helpful.
I know I am not going to initiate anything again. She lost her chance.

The way I see it, unless this girl learns to respect me this isn't going anywhere.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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backseatjuan

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So I get a picture that you two have rapport. So now you need to PM her and ask her phone number. Over the phone get her out to hang out with you and then f'ck her. Have some sense and hang out with her after dark. Maybe grab some indian fast food, and drive your bicycle to a secluded place to eat it, and then nail her. Watch out for tigers and snakes though.
 

rust&bone

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ROTFL....I have her number.I have her on whatsapp dude.
Problem is, if I initiate, she starts taking me for granted and loses respect.It's like she owns the frame and I don't want her to control the frame.We are wrestling for control.I know I am not going to submit and this girl with all her experience is finding me challenging.
We Indians have come a long way from our bicycle days by the way. ;)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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