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[amnbyrd]

Ive been hanging out with this girl for a lil while and we hit it off pretty well. But the thing is a lot og ppl around here talk about her saying shes a slut and talk about all the guys shes been with. I dont know if shes messed around with any other guys since we've been hanging out. I really like her and was hoping to turn her into a girlfriend though Im not sure what kinda relationship she wants. Though in my other thread the advice given was to never bring up the exclusivity thing. So how should I handle this?? I was thinking about being straight up and asking her about what the guys have been saying about her.

 

[EFFORT]

Ive been hanging out with this girl for a lil while and we hit it off pretty well. But the thing is a lot og ppl around here talk about her saying shes a slut and talk about all the guys shes been with.

OK

I dont know if shes messed around with any other guys since we've been hanging out.

GIRLS HAVE CRAZY AMOUNTS OF OPTIONS, SHES DEF SEEING OTHER GUYS. HAVE YOU MESSED AROUND WITH HER YET?

I really like her and was hoping to turn her into a girlfriend though Im not sure what kinda relationship she wants.

THE WOMAN IS THE ONE THAT CHASES THE MAN FOR THE RELATIONSHIP

Though in my other thread the advice given was to never bring up the exclusivity thing.

YEAH BECAUSE THATS NOT THE WAY IT WORKS. THE WOMAN SHOULD BE THE ONE PRESSURING YOU INTO A RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE YOUR SUCH A GOOD CATCH.

So how should I handle this??

ACT NORMAL, ISOLATE, HAVE SEX WITH HER, MEET NEW GIRLS TO KEEP YOURSELF NON NEEDY

I was thinking about being straight up and asking her about what the guys have been saying about her.

DON'T DO THAT

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[amnbyrd]

Yes we've already had sex.
So I should not bring it up at all despite what ppl are saying??
And just keep hanging out with her and hope she brings up the relationship status?

 

[EFFORT]

Yes we've already had sex.

THATS GOOD

So I should not bring it up at all despite what ppl are saying??
And just keep hanging out with her and hope she brings up the relationship status?

THE ISSUE HERE ISN'T HER AND WHAT OTHER PEOPLE ARE SAYING. THE PROBLEM IS YOU WANTING TO ENTER A RELATIONSHIP FROM A PLACE OF NEEDINESS AND URGENCY. IF YOU HAVE TO ASK QUESTIONS ABOUT HOW TO GET A GIRL INTO A RELATIONSHIP THAT MEANS YOU DON'T HAVE THE SKILLS TO GET GIRLS. EVEN IF YOU DID GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS GIRL YOUR ALREADY DOOMED, YOUR ATTITUDES/ABILITIES/BELIEFS/VALUES/BEHAVIORS AREN'T THERE TO HOLD HER.

IF GUYS WOULD JUST GO OUT IN THE FIELD FOR 3-5 YEARS AND AMOUNT THEMSELVES 2000+ APPROACHES IN THAT TIME, GET LOTS OF EXPERIENCE, BUILD THE CORRECT ATTITUDES/ABILITIES/BELIEFS/VALUES AND BEHAVIORS THROUGH THE PROCESS, THERE RELATIONSHIPS FOLLWOING THAT PHASE WOULD REALLY BE IMPROVED.

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