"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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need improvement on sealing the deal that night

Barbillus

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I need some tips on sealing the deal that night with the girl. What am I doing wrong? In all the situations below I met the girl that night in the bar using ****y & funny, apply kino, number close them, and then proceed to dance with them and/or eventually make out with them. AFTER WE LEAVE THE BAR WHY WONT THEY COME UP TO MY APARTMENT OR LET ME COME INTO THEIRS SO WE CAN CONTINUE?????? Is there anything else I can do to make them want this more THAT NIGHT.. how can I get them more hot for me? What are your tips/advice? What lines do you use to get them back to your place that night? Keep in mind bars close at 4AM in NYC.

I live in NYC and am 25 y/o. This is where all my encounters occur and they have been at bars near my apartment and have happenned to me in the past 2 weeks.

1) Met HB9 36 y/o woman at bar, her friend leaves, she stays with me we talk, dance, kiss for next 2 hours, heavy kino. Its getting late *I* suggest its time to go and I say I will walk her back to her place.. walk her back, kiss more out front, I imply I want to go upstairs but she says no and walks in.

2) Met HB8 21 y/o woman at a bar, get her number. Next week she txts me to meet up, I meet up dont even see her in the bar until everyone is leaving. I see her outside, we chat I tell her to walk me back to my place (****y/funny) She does, we make out in front of my building, I invite her in, she is hesitant, I ask again she agrees, comes up we go to 2nd base but she wont let me do anything more, she does sleep over though!

3) Met 29 y/o HB7 at a bar, her friend leaves, she stays with me, we talk, dance, kiss a lot in the bar. I walk her out of bar we walk down by my apartment kiss more, she says she has to go, gets in cab and leaves.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mr.Positive

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Well, you met them all at bars, that may have something to do with it. Their inhibitions were lowered, however a lot of women won't have ONS. Most quality ones won't.

I wouldn't take this personally. This has happened to all of us. Your best bet is to follow up with the ones you actually like and pursue it further.
 

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Mr.Positive said:
a lot of women won't have ONS. Most quality ones won't.
Wrong. Most woman have had a ONS including quality ones.
 

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