"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Need ideas on opener!!!

utax

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Ok, so there is a girl... ok there's always a girl. But there is this girl I see on my bus stop every morning. We are going on the same bus every morning. She is about HB8ish. It's been about 1,5 weeks, since we are going together. But I haven't made move yet. I haven't approched her yet. The problem is that usually my mother goes in the same bus and I feel unconfortable picking up girls standing next to my mother...

So the question is what C&F opener could I use when I see her next time and my mother is not around? I tought about saying "Why are you stalking me?" or something like that in a funny voice. Do you have any good openers for bus?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"Hi", "Hello" , "How's it going" are pretty much the only ones you need for that situation.

All an opener is meant to do is to start an interaction.

I could understand if you were trying to come up with something clever to say to start an interaction with a closed off set of girls in a bar, but needing a clever line to talk to a lone girl in an area that is pretty condusive to friendly chit-chat?

If you really feel the need to do C&F, or have a line, go with something like I have below

So after you've exchange "hello's" or whatever, say something like "I've seen you around here before, but thought you might be on of those dangerous girls so I was afraid to talk to you. But then I saw your Hello Kitty backpack (or whatever accessory she actually has) and figured how dangerous could you be?" Toss is some body language like your not sure about her and are looking her over, then break into a smile and joke about something going on around you should do you just fine.
 

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utax said:
Ok, so there is a girl... ok there's always a girl. But there is this girl I see on my bus stop every morning. We are going on the same bus every morning. She is about HB8ish. It's been about 1,5 weeks, since we are going together. But I haven't made move yet. I haven't approched her yet. The problem is that usually my mother goes in the same bus and I feel unconfortable picking up girls standing next to my mother...

So the question is what C&F opener could I use when I see her next time and my mother is not around? I tought about saying "Why are you stalking me?" or something like that in a funny voice. Do you have any good openers for bus?
I personally wouldnt use the words "stalker", "following" or any other words that can lead to a negative condintation. Just say "Hey,hows it going". As far as your mom,I can't think of anything at the moment to help you.
 

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I've been reading alot of seduction stuff recently in Barnes and Noble and read over this site and others countless times....

Basically you need to put real hard thought in this for yourself, we don't know you and can't tell you what to say. I know you don't wanna hear that but it's true. You need to sit down and think about the situtations you've been in, or may run into and concentrate real hard on how you'd like it to go. Envision everything, the bus vibrating, the sounds, the smells, people around you....get as detailed as possible. Think about how you'd like it to go and practice in your mind over and over until you figure out a routine that works. Once you've done that......GET OUT IN THE FIELD>>>
 

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"Hey, how's it goin?"

"I noticed you take the same bus all the time, where are you heading?"

You are putting way too much emphasis on CF.



You are wasting way too much thoughts into this.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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