"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ok Im having trouble with this girl right now. She is really getting to me, and ive never had these feelings before. Most of the time I meet a girl, hook up and its over. Ive known her for awhile but never pursued her because she had a boyfriend. One night we both ran into eachother at a party and started talking bye the end of the knight we ended up messing around a little bit even though she had that same boyfriend. a few days later she broke up with him. she told me it wasnt because of what happened between me and her. she told me she had feelings for me but she is afraid to give up all she had with that guy since they have been together for around 4 years. so I dont know what to do should I tell her i need a decision so i can get on with my life or should i let her figure it out and be patient?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Dirkdiggler
a few days later she broke up with him. she told me it wasnt because of what happened between me and her. she told me she had feelings for me but she is afraid to give up all she had with that guy since they have been together for around 4 years. so I dont know what to do should I tell her i need a decision so i can get on with my life or should i let her figure it out and be patient?
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Am I reading this correctly? I just don't get it. First you say she broke up with him and that she has feelings for you. Then you say that she doesn't want to give up all she had with that guy (but you said they already broke up).
 
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listen, dong give her an ultimatum, like "it's either me or him" or something like that. she will 99% of the time say him- even if she doesnt want it.
when you give girls ultimatums it puts the girl on a defense- she has to think on her feet, and most the time they make a rash decision.
just appear mysterious, and like you are always busy, and continue to raise her IL. If she's into you enough, she will drop her b/f, and go out w/ you.
I wouldnt say n e thing, but if you do want to say something, say:
her: i have feelings for you
you: that's nice, i'm glad
her: ok?!
you: well, i'm gonna take off, i got things to do
her: what kinda things?
you: it's a secret!
and leave...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Am I reading this correctly? I just don't get it. First you say she broke up with him and that she has feelings for you. Then you say that she doesn't want to give up all she had with that guy (but you said they already broke up).
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Ok I guess I didnt explain it enough. She did brake up with him, because it wasn't fair to him that she had feelings for me. She still loves him, but she don't know if it can work out. So right now she needs to make a decision. And I was asking for help on how to approach this because I think she is aiming towards me, and I dont want to ruin anything.
 
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